Parents are control freaks!

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My mum is very overprotective of me, and I'm 23. I am seeing an older man, yes he is older and yes she's my mum and so has a right to be a little concerned, but she is letting it affect her whole life, like to the point where she's stopped enjoying the things she used to enjoy. It's also making me feel torn, because I really like this man and he really likes me and it's my only chance I have got, but she is my mum and I don't like her being this worried.

I can't afford to move out. If I did, I'd have to work full time, meaning 5-6 full days a week, and I don't think I can cope with that. The job I am in now is low wage, and jobs are hard to come by anyway so I don't want to leave unless I know I have a better paid job lined up. But it's not all that easy, especially for an Aspie.

I don't really have any close friends that will move in a small flat with me. It's not really the right time for me to just ask a friend to do it with me. I do like having a mum who cares, but I wish she will let me do what I want a little more. I was lonely most of my school life and practically the whole of my high school life, and I am s**t at making friends because I'm too shy. So I do want to give men that like me a chance, but it's difficult when my mum is stressing out and yelling at me all the time and calling him names (not to his face but to me).

It's a dilemma.

Joe90
I understand your mother's concern , but you are an adult now.
If age difference is her only issue, then she is being harsh.
Younger men often lack the life experience to see a personality under a shy exterior, and many are still seeking a "trophy" girl to bolster their confidence.
If she has worries beside age, consider them and ask her to discuss them rationally with you.
She may see something you need to assess.

One lesson I have learned is that you cannot choose who your children will love, and trying to makes them more stubborn.
My daughter at 15 was infatuated with a 30 year old man.
We did everything we could to prevent this, at 16 she ran off to live with him.
10 years later they are still in love and together, and we have reconciled.

Yes, your mother only wants you to be happy.
She needs to understand that your happiness may be different to her version of it.

Go to either social security or social services and tell them that you would like to apply for disability and get tested for a disability.

It's what I did, and, I have some income to help me out while I'm looking for a job.