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Tori0326
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18 May 2013, 8:52 am

PrncssAlay wrote:
Moondust wrote:
You have to give them something as early and as convincing as possible that makes them think they got your number. Be emphatic and sound totally convinced of whatever stupid little box you want them to believe you live in.

It took me almost my whole lifetime (up to this point) to figure this out, but hey, it works! Think in terms of projecting a benign image. In the past I basically just tried to stay under the radar but in a small town that doesn't work. If people have to "fill in the blanks" they most likely will imagine negative intent.


Ya'll just blew my mind! 8O

I need to go get stick figure family and soccer ball stickers for the back of my car! Maybe plant some flowers out front....
I'm utilitarian. I generally don't spend time on things that don't have a function. I don't do crafts or decorate or wear "bling" but most NT women do so I stand out as odd.
I carry a Leatherman multi-tool all the time, which comes in useful pretty much everyday, The other day I took it out to open a box and a male NT friend said he thought it was "kinda scary" for a woman to be carrying around. Maybe I ought to glue some rhinestones on it or something :|



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18 May 2013, 3:06 pm

That's not necessary. The "little housewife" was just an example that came to mind. I could've said the "party animal", the "handywoman", whatever. All that matters is that you're considerate of the human psychological need to pigeon-hole other humans fast and easily.

By pigeon-hole I mean, making others feel more in control of what makes you tick, by feeling that they know what makes you tick.

We aspies are very unaware of people's psychological needs, but not only "THEIRS", also our own, which are the same as theirs. If you take some time to observe your own reactions, you'll see that it's hard for you too to relate positively to someone who won't let you pigeon-hole them.

One thing I know about me, though, is that I don't need it to be so incredibly fast and easy as most people seem to need it.


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18 May 2013, 11:50 pm

Tori0326 wrote:
I carry a Leatherman multi-tool all the time, which comes in useful pretty much everyday, The other day I took it out to open a box and a male NT friend said he thought it was "kinda scary" for a woman to be carrying around. Maybe I ought to glue some rhinestones on it or something :|

This image strikes me so funny for some reason, that I'm going to be chuckling the rest of the evening about it. :) The rhinestones on it, that is.