How can you forgive?

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Yeap, it's selfish. But it's a possitive selfiness, since it's better for everyone. Frustations doesn't bring any good to anyone. But it's not always easy.

I've had a similar experience. Medication has helped me immensely, but I wasn't properly treated until I was 39 years old.
Forgiveness - impossible. Not sure who it is that I can't forgive though; it's more just that the system missed me for so long.

I have been having some forgiveness issues since my diagnosis. I spent 20 years working with a psychotherapist who missed my diagnosis. While I did benefit from his treatment, I still endured a lot of unnecessary trauma that a correct diagnosis would have prevented.

I hear ya . . . I went to countless psychiatrists, psychologists, counsellors - none of them caught it. I even spent two weeks in a psychiatric hospital - nothing. 39 years of being ground down into a pit that I'm not sure I can crawl out of and being told to smile because there's nothing wrong with me. I have so much anger, but nowhere to direct it.

Can I ask what you're taking? I was put on Concerta for month and it lowered my social skills and made it difficult to explain myself.

Yeap, I know what you say. Almost same age for me. I felt blocked for years... and all what I needed was a pill. I can be possitive, of course, but my professional career will never recover of this. I will never reach my full potential and I have to live with that. And all this after listening for years that I was not trying hard enough. Right now, knowing the difference between being with the medication (so as a normal person) and without, I really would like to see some people in my shoes for a while.

And all this, at the end of the day, was just a misunderstanding. Everybody told s**t but, well, people are not wired to understand it and there wasn't any bad intention. It's nobody's fault, it's just a f*****g misundrstanding.

That makes it even worse. The feeling that it's nothing to fight against, that the anger has nowhere to go. The feeling that all your life has been taken away because... some unsignificant misunderstanding.



Modafinil.

How can you forgive it? Because they spoke from ignorance. Yes, it was not their business, but they spoke from ignorance on that too (they didn't know they should just keep quiet.)

Opinions and knowledge don't always seem to be on speaking terms.

"Forgive them for they know not what they do."

In my country there's a proverb that says, literaly "Hell is full of good intentions".

The problem is the feeling of lack of trust. I understand that somebody can speak from ignorance. And then is when you say 'Please, trust me, I'm not making excuses. This is real'. No way.

I have been single for a while, now. I'm trying to force me to get into the market again, but can't do it. Now I have a pill that works, so I can demonstrate that this was a very real stuff. But if there's not trust... which is the point, where's the purpose in a relation?

"Though I speak with the tongues of angels,
If I have not love...
My words would resound with but a tinkling of a cymbal.
And though I have the gift of prophecy...
And understand all mysteries...
and all knowledge...
And though I have all faith
So that I could remove mountains,
if I have not love...
I am nothing."

Perhaps I could demonstrate now what I'm really able to do, to develop finally my potential. But what would be the difference? what is love without trust?