Annoying things people do to you because you have aspergers.

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-Treat me as if I'm stupid and use subterfuge because they think I can't see through it by now (happens all the time so I know what it looks like).

-Ignore what I say because they assume that I'm wrong and know nothing.

-Not take me seriously, at all.

That's just to name a few, and each of these happen every day, everywhere.

I can relate to other posters here.

Many people disregard what I say. Only a small number of people listen to me.

Some malicious people at work have turned the volume of the radio up very high to annoy me because they know I don't like the radio.

Also because I tend to be anxious and get stressed very easily, some people lied to make me even more stressed and get a laugh out of it.

These things make me wonder what the company's "anti-bullying" policy and "embracing the diversity" statement mean. They are easily tolerating harassment and discriminatory behavior. I don't think the company really means what the policy or statement or whatever says.

People who believe my sister has Aspergers because I have Aspergers too.

People who treat me in a pompous manner.

People who tell me that I'm another psychopath in the making.

People who think I'm a human map, meaning I'm asked where places are, even places I've never visited at all.

Bullying, controlling, criticizing, insulting... and being mean towards me in general.

I haven't faced any of those problems because hardly anybody besides my sister knows what Aspergers is. I came from a family who know very little of this stuff.

I hate the fact that the word 'autism' is synonymous as an insult. Both the internet and real life, I've heard people use that word to initiate a hateful conversation like "Dude, you must be f*****g autistic" which is plain arrogant.

A long time ago I mentioned to a friend, that I very likely was an aspie. Some months ago I met his sister in a restaurant.
She looked at me and said something about me having to be a math wiz...... I actually suck at it. A moment later she looked at me in astonishment because I spoke very naturally with her 14 year old daughter, a very sweet and sensible girl.
1. I have known my friends sister all her life.
2. She is an accomplished psychologist.

people dont treat u weird because you have Aspergers. They treat you weird because either you're misrepresenting yourself in a negative way or they're just bullies. The second option is the less common one because most people aren't mean to people who aren't mean to them back.


You must be doing something that's giving people a reason to be mean to you. You're just not realizing it. My suggestion is be nice and friendly to people. If you're nice and friendly to people, there won't be any good reason for people to hate you and they are more likely to see past your flaws. Kind of like the Halo effect.

Look up the halo effect on google.

I don't have AS by reputation, but here are two things, one chronic and one specific incident.

The chronic thing is that, if I happen to be in a group of 3 people (often in a work situation) and one person is talking, they make eye contact almost exclusively with the other person. I understand it's probably because I am subconsciously avoiding eye contact, but it still makes me feel intentionally excluded.

The other specific incident happened a few years ago with a gentleman who is married to a close friend of my wife. We were together in a mall and had the intention of getting a table at a Johnny Rockets for both couples. Arriving at the restaurant, I approached the hostess and began to request a table. Before two words were out of my mouth, he stepped in front of me and quickly completed the transaction, as if I were fully incapable of something so simple. Note that although I said that I am not AS by reputation, I'm sure he has privately diagnosed me as he has diagnosed at least one of his children.

Of course there were many more things when I was younger when I had no idea about AS, just thought I was a bad person others could justifiably not tolerate.

If you are nice and friendly to other people, they are more likely to look past your flaws.

People that aren't my family members don't believe that I have aspergers, so they don't treat me any different than their other NT friends. And because they think of me as a NT, they get mad at me when I don't want to get together all the time or don't want to talk everyday. That really bothers me.

I made a big mistake when I first started my job. I had my mentor come to the interview with me, and he obviously told them that I had AS, and luckily they are a disability-friendly firm, so they were happy to take me on. The mistake of mine was I didn't think to tell them to keep my AS confidential, and not let the whole workplace know. My symptoms aren't obvious enough to have everybody needing to know, and I'm happy with just telling people myself that I have a stress or anxiety disorder and/or depression, which is also true. But I know somebody has let everyone in the whole workplace know that I've got this label what most people don't fully understand about, and I know they've all been told because of the way some people speak to me. Some seem to think I'm going to have a meltdown on the floor when stressed about something small, because of the way they react when I come to ask for help. Yes, I do get stressed, but I want to be treated like someone with a stress disorder, I do not want to be treated gingerly.

When people know I have AS, they only look at the stereotypes what they know of, instead of just looking at me as a person. Like when someone says something and I agree and know what they mean, they still start explaining themselves like they think I will take everything literally. It's like everyone feels like they have to tread on eggshells around me, and nobody has to do that. There are a few that do speak to me like any other ordinary person, which is what I like.

OK, I know I may sound a little contradicting, like wanting to be understood but not wanting to be treated gingerly at the same time. I don't expect people to just read my mind. I just like to be spoken to like a dignified person, but I also want people to be aware that I have anxiety and that, so when I am in an anxious situation, they will be willing to help. Yes, I can express my feelings like an average person, and people will see that when they get to know me.