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11 Jun 2013, 6:57 am

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I'm not going to get into the ethics of it all. This situation is very simple- You are trying to get help for your issues. You have some feelings for the doctor. Getting help requires a professional relationship devoid of personal feelings that will derail your objective.

Solution: Stop screwing around and go find someone you don't have feelings for so you can meet your mental health goals. Consider talking to the next doctor about your attachment issue.

simple straightforward advice
but what guarantee i wont fall for the next doctor
i get emotionally attached :roll: easily


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11 Jun 2013, 6:59 am

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If it was me, I'd want my patient/client to be open with me and to have a dialogue around this.
What if you mention your thoughts to him and gauge his response? A skilled (and ethical) psychiatrist will be able to handle this concern and talk you through to the point where you can make the best decision for you. It really seems a shame to throw away what sounds like a positive relationship without clarifying matters.
If he reciprocates your feelings (e.g. he says that he loves you back and tries to pursue a personal relationship) I would cut, run and consider reporting him to the appropriate medical board for the safety of his other patients (present and future).

you want me to tell him that i have fallen in love with him 8O ?


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11 Jun 2013, 7:01 am

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I don't see how it is a crime for a Doctor and a Patient to fall in love with each other.

in india a married person is not allowed to pursue a relationship its against law as per hindu marriage act and can lead to imprisonment


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11 Jun 2013, 7:03 am

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It is easy for people to become attached to their psychiatrists when they feel a connection with them. Remember though, it is his job to show interest in you. Aspies are bad at reading social clues, so you could easily be misreading his intentions.

Even if he does have a genuine romantic interest in you, it is highly unethical to pursue this. You are both married, and you have a patient doctor relationship. I suggest you talk to him about this first to clarify the situation. I am pretty sure you will find his interest in you is purely professional.

he send me add request on linked in
and then asked me to add him on whatsapp
so thats make me wonder whether its a two way street


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11 Jun 2013, 7:04 am

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I'm assuming it's an emotional kinda fixation and not totally romantic in a sense. It's possible to get attached to people without it being romantic.

Maybe that would be a good thing to talk to him about in general. i.e talking about how you get attached to people who show interest in you (without referring to your attachment to him as a specific example). I imagine psychiatrists/psychologists/counselors end up being a subject of fixation more often than you think, so you're probably not the first patient who's felt like this towards him.

ya i do suffer from erotomania


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11 Jun 2013, 7:07 am

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You asked how you should behave with him, well clearly as you are besotted with him you will never behave the same in your therapy as if you weren't, and this makes your doctor patient relationship likely to be less therapeutic than it is meant to be, perhaps far less. Your thoughts will always be on how you want him and your issues may not be addressed.

It just seems like a bad situation, I don't know what to suggest to you, I've told you what I think about the ethics side already, only you can make choices for your situation, I just hope you make the right ones.

ya the relationship has become kind of uncomfortable now
and i feel nervous around him
i feel shy and awkward
so the patient doctor relationship as gone for a toss


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11 Jun 2013, 7:24 am

I thought the purpose of going to a psychiatrist is to open up and let everything out there in the open to get clarity on things. Maybe it was a good thing to come here first and check it out. I think some of the advice given here that points to him reciprocating the feeling would mean you should get someone else at the minimum. Would be interesting to see the outcome of all of this.



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11 Jun 2013, 8:15 am

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Rascal77s wrote:
I'm not going to get into the ethics of it all. This situation is very simple- You are trying to get help for your issues. You have some feelings for the doctor. Getting help requires a professional relationship devoid of personal feelings that will derail your objective.

Solution: Stop screwing around and go find someone you don't have feelings for so you can meet your mental health goals. Consider talking to the next doctor about your attachment issue.

simple straightforward advice
but what guarantee i wont fall for the next doctor
i get emotionally attached :roll: easily


As you know you get emotionally attached easily that is half the battle. The other half is controlling it. You should try to see female-only doctors in future so this cannot happen, and if seeing a male doctor means you will likely have this issue you should be up front with them from the outset and say you have this problem of getting emotionally attached and they need to be very aware of this and to ensure it doesn't become a problem. Female doctors sounds as if it's the best option for you though so you don't take the risk of this happening every time.


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11 Jun 2013, 8:48 am

Once immortality is achieved we will become like the angels who neither marry nor are given in marriage.



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11 Jun 2013, 9:11 am

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Once immortality is achieved we will become like the angels who neither marry nor are given in marriage.


Y...e...a...h... 8O , in the meantime, we are mere mortals, and human, and prone to the problems of humankind and need advice relevant to our current state.


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11 Jun 2013, 9:55 am

Anyway my psychiatrist turned out to be my long forgotten girl friend. When I remembered who she was she had already moved away so I never saw her again. She could not remember who I was but she told me I looked familiar.

Relationships between Doctors and Patients violate the Hippocratic oath but that does not mean that these relationships are unethical because Hippocrates could be proven wrong. A relationship would interfere with medical treatment which would be wrong but the solution would be to put the relationship on hold for 2 years.

Preexisting marriages are almost impossible to resolve ethically . The only ethical solution to this dilemma would be the abolishment of the institution of marriage itself and to create one big family but this would require radical revolutionary social change and would create a cultural shock that would divide the nation.



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11 Jun 2013, 9:55 am

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As you know you get emotionally attached easily that is half the battle. The other half is controlling it. You should try to see female-only doctors in future so this cannot happen, and if seeing a male doctor means you will likely have this issue you should be up front with them from the outset and say you have this problem of getting emotionally attached and they need to be very aware of this and to ensure it doesn't become a problem. Female doctors sounds as if it's the best option for you though so you don't take the risk of this happening every time.

psychatrist are mostly males
females are counsellors and therapist
hmm....i will try to search for a female psychatrist
but timing also should match since i work
i will but change for sure now


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Once immortality is achieved we will become like the angels who neither marry nor are given in marriage.

IMMORTALITY
i dont think i ever want to be immortal :o


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11 Jun 2013, 10:25 am

That is why marriages are temporary institutions that last about 50 years. Can you imagine having to remain married to the same person for a million years just to prove your faithfulness and to appease jealousy?



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11 Jun 2013, 12:56 pm

I decided it would be best to divorce first before trying to date someone else. But in my mind I guess I was already cheating. So I thought I did what was best for the both of us.

The problem here is of course if she happens to leave her husband for this guy then it will be a difficult road socially.

After I have seen the movie, Trishna (2011) I have no doubt about the guilt that people place on themselves and what society reminds you of not having, happiness of your own, because of this servant type expectance towards society.

Maybe move to a city or country where it is not frowned upon as much :|



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11 Jun 2013, 1:17 pm

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I decided it would be best to divorce first before trying to date someone else. But in my mind I guess I was already cheating. So I thought I did what was best for the both of us.

The problem here is of course if she happens to leave her husband for this guy then it will be a difficult road socially.

After I have seen the movie, Trishna (2011) I have no doubt about the guilt that people place on themselves and what society reminds you of not having, happiness of your own, because of this servant type expectance towards society.

Maybe move to a city or country where it is not frowned upon as much :|

I am not leaving my husband of 10 years, with whom i share a kid for some guy i met twice
i am not that crazy enough


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