That bursting feeling when you need to say something

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Yeah the personal stuff I have learned to hold in (and I think this is what contributes to social anxiety with many of us) for the most part, although I still get in trouble with some stuff like that. I never got the bursting feeling with that though, I just thought stuff and then said it, there was no connection that told me it wouldn't be appropriate, it was seeing peoples' reactions that made me inhibited about doing it so much.

And it's kind of like a sensory issue because the bursting feeling rises up inside of you and becomes almost intolerable so you need to release it, because we have sensitive bodies and it's probably harder for us to contain that feeling than NTs. I have interoception which is awareness of internal organs so it's a very unpleasant sensation for me.

I have that feeling but it isn't usually the need to correct. Usually the issue is I have something to add and will miss the opportunity if I wait. Whoever I'm talking with will ramble on to a different point and I'll forget what it was I wanted to say.

lol. That always happens to me with my father. My issue is he takes forever to get his point across even when I already know exactly what he'll say. I always want to finish his thought for him "yes, blah blah blah, but <insert my own point>". Every once in a while I'll get it wrong and he'll get really pissed, but the main issue is I get so anxious listening to him waffle on and on. I think I have power clashes with him because I see him as louder and more assertive than me, and he doesn't admit to being wrong much. Something about his personality just leads to me getting testy and impatient.

That's a good strategy when the bursting feeling has to do with correcting someone. What would you do if you were bursting to say something that you knew was inappropriate while nobody was saying anything wrong?

Do get that feeling.

Was more frequent when I was a teen in highschool and jr.high.

Decades later I still remember when teachers got things wrong, and I knew it, but didnt say anything, and one time when two classmates got philosophical about something and I DID correct them - and one coudnt comprehend what I was saying and got pissed off and thought I was picking on him when I wasnt. Oh well. But those things do stick in my mind decades later.

Kind of...not so much "correcting" people (at least, not all the time), but the "I have to get this thought/idea out NOW or I'm going to forget it and never get to say it" feeling. This is probably why I tend to speak really quickly--too quickly, sometimes.

You mean with frequent comical errors?

Nope, just too fast for them to understand what I'm saying.

No, I don't have the issue OP mentions to that degree. I'll notice it, but I likely wouldn't point it out to the person and I certainly wouldn't feel like I was about to burst. I might cringe though. Afterwards I would go to people I know better (mostly rels) and mock what the person said, and it might become a joke between us.

An example: Some years ago I bought a postcard in a bookstore because it had a really cute picture of a frog and it wasn't expensive. As I was paying the cashier I said: "That frog is so cute." (in Norwegian)
She looked at it, smiled and said it was very cute.
The word for very she used is kjempe, and the kj is pronounced like the ch in the German word ich. But, as is typical for small children but not something a young woman should have problems with, she pronounced it like sh instead.
I cringed, managed to smile and left, but I told my mother (who was waiting outside, we were downtown together) and we laughed about it and commented it among us (way out of earshot for the woman).

There was a language program on TV where that kj-sound was mentioned and a woman who had heard the seller at a kitchen ware store mispronounce it, said that she didn't wanna buy a kitchen from a 3 year old. That one made me howl with laughter, and we've referred to that one quite a bit.

I wouldn't burst to interrupt them or likely even say anything, but I would be likely to ridicule them with someone like-minded who also dislike adults sounding like they're still in kindergarten, and I would most certainly look down on the person who mispronounced or said something wrong. I would feel contempt for them and I would respect them less ion general. Adults who can't speak their native tongue are just pathetic.

I have this problem big time. It's not helped by the fact that I have problems coming up with anything to say at all.

I don't have a problem when other people can't pronounce something but I get upset when I don't know how to pronounce a word I've frequently read but rarely if ever heard spoken out loud. It's a big issue with someone like me who reads more than they interact IRL. I was talking to someone regarding a trip I'm going on to Alaska and I didn't know how to pronounce fjord. I was so frustrated that I didn't bother to attempt it and just said "How do you say that word that starts with an 'f'?". It only confused them more as they obviously didn't know what I was talking about. I later learned that it was a borrowed Scandinavian word and the "j" is pronounced like "ee" (at least in the English pronunciation, don't know if it's any different in actual Norwegian).

Yes! all the time. i have to burst out my thougts before i forget . and i also have a GREAT need to correct people if they have their facts wrong.

When I was younger I did have that bursting feeling. The thing is, I don't know if people appreciated my corrections or not. In retrospect I think some people probably hated being corrected.

I've learned to stop doing it though. At work, for instance, I might overhear a conversation where someone has said something blatantly wrong but I won't correct them. They'd probably think I was a stuck-up prude if I did anyway.

It's hard to describe how we pronounce fjord in Norwegian. The 'f' is easy enough, and the 'j' is pronounced like the 'y' in yellow.
The 'o' is pronounced like the 'u' in the German word Schule. I can't think of a single English word where o is pronounced that way. I've noticed they use that sound quite a lot in Korean movies.
The 'r' isn't pronounced like in English, but like the German r.
The 'd' is silent.

Americans pronounce it more like the Swedish with a longer sounding 'y', the 'o' closer to float, and a definite 'd' at the end. The Norwegian pronunciation is hard for Americans.

This one i can be bad at... if i am bursting to say something i usually blurt it out. It's poor social skills and i'm afraid i'll forget what i want to say (trust me it happens). Sometimes i cut people off in conversation yet i don't mean harm by it, they could never help that with me since i was a kid.