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07 Aug 2013, 7:21 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
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It seems that when an authority figure corrects someone, that is also considered abuse.
It doesn't count as correcting when said authority figure is incorrect.

How would anyone know if an authority figure was incorrect unless he or she was also an authority figure in the same discipline?



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07 Aug 2013, 7:22 pm

Fnord wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Fnord wrote:
It seems that when an authority figure corrects someone, that is also considered abuse.
It doesn't count as correcting when said authority figure is incorrect.

How would anyone know if an authority figure was incorrect unless he or she was also an authority figure?


Anyone can become an authority on the definition of abuse simply by picking up a dictionary.

Who says authority figures are infallible, even in their field of expertise, simply by virtue of their authority?


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07 Aug 2013, 7:28 pm

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I've been called "abusive" for citing dictionary definitions, providing valid references, and sticking to the facts.

Since when is it abusive to be right?


And I've been called abusive for asking that someone who needed help got help.

Being called abusive when you aren't doesn't mean that that abuse is defined as not being able out of a situation. What "you can't get out of" isn't a clear concept anyways, and what some people consider not being able to get out of, others consider easy to get out of.

Verbal and emotional abuse does exist. Abuse where one person is not innately above the other according to society exists. Abuse occurs where people are even told they should leave, and they have means to do so, and they still don't - and that doesn't make it any less abusive.

Because that's not what abuse is about.



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07 Aug 2013, 7:30 pm

^ It's like being called a "Troll" just because you post a different opinion.



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07 Aug 2013, 7:42 pm

^
Just want to point out in this case someones past issues were waved away merely as an annoyance, which maybe means those issues will not get the full attention they deserve.



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07 Aug 2013, 7:44 pm

Fnord wrote:
It seems that when an authority figure corrects someone, that is also considered abuse.

:roll:


Authority figures are not always right. Appeal to authority with no qualifications or allowance for context is an incorrect appeal to authority. The therapist in Jayo's post is simply wrong about what constitutes abuse.

I don't think you're abusive or a troll, although I frequently disagree with you.



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07 Aug 2013, 7:48 pm

Verdandi wrote:
Fnord wrote:
It seems that when an authority figure corrects someone, that is also considered abuse.
Authority figures are not always right. Appeal to authority with no qualifications or allowance for context is an incorrect appeal to authority. The therapist in Jayo's post is simply wrong about what constitutes abuse.

Being wrong is not abuse, either. It is simply being wrong.

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I don't think you're abusive or a troll, although I frequently disagree with you.

Thanks, Ver. I appreciate your honesty.



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07 Aug 2013, 9:26 pm

Fnord wrote:
I've been called "abusive" for citing dictionary definitions, providing valid references, and sticking to the facts.

Since when is it abusive to be right?


When did anyone in this thread say it was abusive to be right? the consensus here seems to be that his therapist is merely stupid, not abusive!

I can't say as I know you well enough to accuse you of abuse, so I'll just take your word for it that others may have done so.


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