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11 Oct 2013, 12:29 pm

Self-confidence starts with small successes - baking a cake; planting a garden; painting a closet - and then works its way up from there.

I can make a decent ham-and-cheese-on-rye-with-mayo sandwich ...



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11 Oct 2013, 1:49 pm

I wish I could meet other people in the field who are on the spectrum! It would make me feel a whole lot better.



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11 Oct 2013, 2:23 pm

peaceloveerin wrote:
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I really feel my Asperger's and low self-confidence are holding me back from pursuing a career in social work! I know it shouldn't be that way, but it is. I'm also afraid the people who know I'm an aspie (except my family and close friends) will reject this profession for the very same reason. Finally, I'm also worried that my lack of experience in the field will hinder me from getting into any of the 7 schools I'm applying to for grad school.


As an aspie. Why you would want to peruse a career in social work? To me, That seem like trying to mix oil and water together. Not imposable but very hard.

Ok, I find this response a little insulting! There is actually a very successful social worker with AS named Brian King. I also found out that it happens to be a common profession among women Aspies. I feel that as an Aspie, I can better understand what people like me faced growing up on the spectrum and let them know that they're not alone in what they're dealing with.

Think before you write something like this.


I didn't intend it to be insulting. I am just confused. I just don't see why an aspie would want to do something like that. it seem like it ageist are nature.

If anything, comments like yours lower my self-confidence even more!


I am not in anyway trying to lower your confidence. I am just warning you from experience. I am just saying from my experience that aspie + social can be a recipe for disaster. The last thing you want is to have low self-esteem only in the end to have the very thing you are pursuing blow up in you're face. It sound like to me that you are confident with the choice you made and in no way do I want to discourage you from your decision.


I think you're confusing social work with social skills! Those two things are completely different! Get your facts straight.


Your right. I didn't have my facts strait. My mistake. Its just the way you phrase your post that got my attention. The best analogy I could use to describe the way I interpreted you post is something like this. You posted a message worried that you where gonna get bitten but yet you still wanted to keep teasing the dog. Or another way to put it. You posted a message worried that you where gonna get burned but yet you still wanted to keep playing with fire. And my natural response was. If you don't wanna get bitten, stop teasing the dog. Or If you don't wanna get burned, stop playing with fire. But you're right. There is a difference between social skill and social work. Sorry about that.



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11 Oct 2013, 2:54 pm

The biggest thing holding you back is the recession. There aren't enough social workers to take care of our elderly population, not because people don't want to do it, it's because no one wants to pay anyone to do it. It's quite a shame.

What we have for all its failings is sort of a free market economy so as long as you can "prove" you're better at social work than the other people who applied, you get the job. Take what little solace you can from that.



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11 Oct 2013, 3:50 pm

Well, I think the recession has affected a lot of people, not just those in social work.