Did you ever believe that you grew out of Asperger's?

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This seems to fit me, as well.

I'm not 'over' having an ASD, but the compensatory methods I've developed on my own seem to have worked to my advantage ... if only I could articulate them better ... maybe others could apply them, as well.

I thought that for a time, until I realized I was wrong . Like others have mentioned, I have developed many coping mechanisms and have abated many of the worst aspects of Aspergers. As a child, I was pretty much a textbook definition. Nowadays, I'm probably borderline diagnosable. I still do struggle with it (close friendships/romantic relationships still elude me), but now I can at least manage and get by with no major issues.

You no longer care or did you just simply give-up? For me. Living with the prospect of knowing that I will never be able to emotionally connect with other people and sitting on the sidelines and watching other do is just painfully depressing. I am sick of people telling me "You are a genius, go figure it out!". People hold me up to such a high standards that are just simply false. They seem to think if I can do one (unrelated) thing, I can do the other.

I know that I will never grow out of it because it's hard-wired in my head. But recently I think I'm accepting myself and I'm starting to like myself better. It's not that I have given up but I think I'm actually actively liking the way I am.

One of the consequences of that is that I have become rather confrontational because I started not to care about all the judgmental people around me. As long as I know that I'm not in the wrong, I will offend whoever likes to be offended. It's their problem. Being liked and accepted no longer interests me.

I guess I can say these things because I at least have one or two people that I could possibly call "friends" and also I know I'm loved by my parents and sisters.

I don't want to offend people who are truly ignorant. If we are 1 out of 88 then the neuromajority is 87 of 88 and do not often meet people on the spectrum. How can I criticize people when 3 months ago I only had a partial laymen s misleading media based knowledge myself? If they are willfully ignorant, psychologists who do not listen, media who sensationalize the autism=Adam Lanza angle, or people who say it is all a scam by lazy people who don't make an effort to stop being social ret*ds, or a criminal conspiracy to rip off taxpayers for disability benefits no problem offending them.

Reading all posts here the best decision I ever made in my life was made for the wrong reason. Out of stubbornness I stayed away from mental health professionals. So I never was constantly misdiagnosed and repeatedly pushed back and back doing incalculable damage. How twisted is that?. I am just infuriated at the horror show after horror show the nice people here have had to deal with from people who should have known better or just refused to listen or believe.

I really understand your posts & all here.......Overcoming the misconceptions of others is overwhelming and ultimately defeating. I have met self-righteous individuals whose ignorance would have literally killed me. Being bullied is bitter and reporting it is futile. I've endured crippling cruelty based on their ignorance.

Really the only way is to exploit your own inherent strengths! I believe most of us only need empowerment - even just friendship.