The comment about autistic bees made me aware that I have autistic hair. Unlike autistic people [and dogs and cats and bees] my hair was not BORN autistic. it was in fact NT with all of the traits NT's appreciate. It was soft, smooth and manageable. I was complimented often on how stylish it was.
Now, since chemo, my hair has grown in autistic. It is wild and totally unmanageable.[ EInstein hair] It does not fit in to the socially acceptable popular hair groups such as straight, shiny, curly, wavy. It seems to be a little of each and not enough of any. I have actually been told that I have weird hair and that if I really TRIED I could get it to behave in more socially acceptable ways. Well, I have attempted to reason with my hair ["Don't you care about what others think of you? If you would allow some fairly simple changes, you might - though it would be on the lower end- be able to pass as normal, acceptable hair.] but my hair doesn't even TRY anymore. It did try for awhile before it demanded that I only wash it and just let it be what it is.
So, I've finally shown my hair the respect it has always deserved. My hair, in turn, returns that respect by not grousing when I slip on a wig, hat or turban, thus proving that 2 autistics can peacefully coexist with each other.