Is there anyone like me out there?

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It's most likely the social anxiety which is the problem, not your uniqueness (and I have no doubts you do possess special gifts). I once thought I was so smart that no one could relate to me, too. But then I learned it was my psychological and Aspie stuff getting in the way -- not my "uniqueness." I've been in treatment for a long time now to reduce my anxiety and to learn social skills. Now I can chat with anyone. Even people of average intelligence can be really fascinating.

Once again, I don't think I'm that intelligent (though psychologists etc tell me I'm most likely above average). It doesn't matter what causes me to feel what I feel as long as I can figure it out and do something about it. And the thing is I haven't figured it out just yet.

You're unique, just like everyone else.

Funnily enough I actually felt similarly before being assessed as a teenager and finding out I test well into the profoundly gifted range. We're not always the best judges of our own abilities, it seems. As a perspective gaining exercise alone I found it worth being tested.

To be honest, the bar for Mensa is set quite low. I'm fairly sure you would surprise yourself without any trouble.

Yeah Mensa is only top 2% of population. I hope this doesn't sound haughty, but that's really not a big deal.

Chameleon, you and I need to have an I.Q. pissing contest. :=P But the high I.Q. has been a curse because I've relied on it too much, so that my E.Q. is incredibly low. I've hurt my career terribly by being clueless, blunt, unaware, and tactless.

I doubt it but yeah, we'll see. I guess they make you take some sort of IQ test when they assess you for AS/ASD, right? If so then I'll have to take one in the beginning of next year anyway.



Maybe not for you but if I had an IQ of 131 or higher I'd see that as a pretty big deal (not that I'd show off or anything but still).

rebbieh, you sound like an awesome guy. If I could meet you in real life, I would definitely hang out with you. You are fine just the way you are, don't change a thing about yourself. The fact that you love math, and have a thirst for knowledge is AWESOME. I would be glad to have you as a friend. There are people out there that like you for the way that you are. The world can be a cruel place, but don't give up. Keep on being your awesome self.

Not understanding people and not being understood is a way of life of an aspie. Face it. Our brains operate on a different frequency from everyone else. We are pretty much condemned to a life of emotional disconnect whether we like it or not.

Rebbieh, the most significant impression I gain from reading your posts is that you are not arrogant. I relate to a lot of what you have said, and it is very hard to express these things. Stick with trying to find people to whom you relate. These people may not be facsimilies of you, they may be very different to you in superficial respects, but don't give up on the idea that there are people who can relate to you and understand you. The internet is such a useful tool for this, and writing can really help in talking to others in the more profound ways that seem such a barrier in face-to-face social intercourse. Your posts present a pleasing personality and I hope you find people that make you feel at 'home' in a broad sense

Thanks, LuigiDude, that's very kind of you. I'm doing my best.



That might be true but I'm not assessed yet (I'm getting assessed in the beginning of next year) so I don't even know if I've got some sort of ASD yet.



Thank you. I often worry that I might come across as arrogant or selfish etc. I guess I am quite self-centered though. I think that's because I'm trying to figure out why things are the way they are for me. The fact that I don't have an answer to that question is something I find really frustrating. Anyway, I, too, hope that I'll be able to find people who make me feel 'at home' but yeah, I'm starting to wonder if that will ever happen.

you sound like me. i could have written this post. thus no you are not alone.

and to add to that, I insert my observations just to see if you resonate with any of it. if not that is just fine.

I've learned a lot about alien-human breeding and hybridization and have on my own realized that the behavior of those with asperger's and similar diagnoses are the behaviors of a soul incarnated into a body that it is not accustomed to. Hence the: lack of physical coordination/ body awareness, the oversensitivity to the environment, the lack of social understanding that neurotypicals seem to pick up on naturally. Also there is the very different way of thinking which you mentioned. Its a kind of objective logical way to think rather than a learned way of thinking. Then there is the intuition that a lot of aspies experience along with increased understanding of universal subjects such as math, science, and music.

anyway I wont go into my entire rant but you get the main idea

You're welcome, rebbieh. Honestly, I used to be like you, when I was younger. I used to feel like an outcast at times, like there was something wrong with me. I never quite fit in with other kids, and I knew that something about me was different. I always acted strange, in comparison to other people, and I had difficulty in socializing and being able to talk with people. Nowadays, I feel much better about myself. I can honestly say that this year is the first time where I truly feel happy all-together, and didn't dislike myself, or wonder why I couldn't be like other people. I guess that i just learned to accept myself for who I am, and that awkwardness and acting strange will always be a part of me, no matter what. Also, I found a good friend who helped me accept myself, and feel happy. I may be different from others, but I like that about myself. After all, normal is boring. Keep on being youself, rebbieh. You will find people that like you for who you are.