Can people with AS get easily attached to people?

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I have already told him about my inability to talk, he says he understands. I do find relationships hard because I tend to misunderstand a lot of things, but coming on WP and learning a bit more about why I have been acting as I do all these years and learning about myself has been a really good thing and I hope that I can put that to some use in my relationship and my friendships

I always have to have one person I am obsessed with and I am not sure why. Then I contact them too much and become too expressive and end up driving them away. I have no idea why I do this but it is a cycle. If anyone wants to chime in that woukd be great bc I would like go understand why I do this. I can't seem to control it although I feel like I should be able to.

I think so, I have a friend that I had since school and it had in my school report "She can become too possessive and single out one person."

There are some people with ASD I know who would be considered clingy. They tend to be talkative and extroverted and tend not to realize that a friendship develops over time and grows slowly. They tend to be bad at reading people's intentions, behaviors and body language, following others around...social subtlety tends to be lost on them. It's hard for me because I want to be accepting towards everyone but behaviors like this just annoy me.

In the past, and to a much lesser extent today, I've had person obsessions, where I become intensely into a person I know in real life. I don't exhibit any weird behavior towards them (though I did in the past) but do I spend an abnormal amount of time thinking and theorizing about them. One girl I mentor has these as well, and it's one of the reasons we bond so well - we are able to discuss these experiences.

I used to get attached to people all the time when I was younger, like to my aunt, my teachers, one of my mom's coworkers - basically anyone who was nice to me and didn't act like I was nothing but a nuisance, I became attached to. And of course I was attached to my parents.

These days I try not to attach myself to people...after I learned that it would only hurt me in the end.

I don't get attached to people easily, but I am very very very attached to some.
Those are:
-my parents, despites nearly every counselor I've met saying I'm not attached to my parents that much;
-Christine;
-Andrew, I fear that something bad is gonna happen to him every f*cking minute or so.

Yes I have the embarrassing tendency to get over attached to one particular person (or couple) and focus all of my time and energy on them. It can make other people uncomfortable when I get so attached to them, so now that I understand it better I try to back off more.

Luckily the one person I tend to get attached to the most is my best friend, who doesn't mind because she has Aspergers too, and gets the same kind of attachments as I do (we also really enjoy each others company anyway).

But yeah when I look back at some of the attachments I have had in the past it really embarrass me that I was practically stalking those people

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Autistic dad to an autistic boy and loving it - its always fun in our house

I have Autism. My communication difficulties mean that I sometimes get words wrong, that what I mean is not what comes out.

Not sure if this counts but I'm EXTREMELY attached to my cats.

Hi Therese04,

I get attached to people very quickly, but then if I don't have any contact with them for a short space of time the attachement "breaks" very quickly.