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22 Nov 2013, 11:16 am

Embrace the parts of the weirdness that you can't change. Play it up and acknowledge it. Be the first one to mention it and make a slight joke about it then all is usually well.



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22 Nov 2013, 1:47 pm

I'm weird, and proud of it. I've decided to start letting my weirdness show, and if anyone doesn't like that I do things that make me feel more comfortable, they can kiss my a**!


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22 Nov 2013, 2:48 pm

I wouldn't worry about this too much.

Weird is different but different is also weird. It doesn't mean it's necessarily a bad thing.

Though I do think that was a little strange what your mother said, if I can be totally honest. It would make more sense to say that people feel uncomfortable with others who use different social conventions, which to me is more accurate.



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22 Nov 2013, 5:27 pm

jetbuilder wrote:
I'm weird, and proud of it. I've decided to start letting my weirdness show, and if anyone doesn't like that I do things that make me feel more comfortable, they can kiss my a**!


Asspergers?



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22 Nov 2013, 6:56 pm

Asperger96 wrote:
jetbuilder wrote:
I'm weird, and proud of it. I've decided to start letting my weirdness show, and if anyone doesn't like that I do things that make me feel more comfortable, they can kiss my a**!


Asspergers?


Yes. (not formally Dx'ed though. Psychiatrist I saw in the military, and several other people, said I probably do have AS)

Maybe I should have said: I've decided to not try so hard to come off as "normal".....


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22 Nov 2013, 7:49 pm

Well, I'm probably neurotypical and I get this ALL THE TIME, so you're not alone. In fact, my boyfriend's SIL told me, "You're so funny!" and I hadn't said anything funny, so I asked her how...and she said "Oh, it's unintentional" and then kept laughing. Um, I'm a person...I understand you're making fun of me!

I've heard it from other people too..and I heard it a lot as a kid. One reason why I'm here is I just want to know what's wrong with me. Psychologists have diagnosed OCD/ADD over and over again, and I score as neurotypical but I'm sick of everyone thinking i'm weird. I just want to know why. When my boyfriend and I were dating he said that I was "really socially awkward" around new people, but couldn't tell me how. I still want to know, lol



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22 Nov 2013, 8:01 pm

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as Bumble said, normal isn't always a good thing, I'll just have to keep that in mind the next time my lack of normalcy is brought up.


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22 Nov 2013, 10:08 pm

Who honestly gets to decide what is "normal" anyway? There's no 10 Commandments lists on what normal is, I don't think.



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23 Nov 2013, 1:15 am

jetbuilder wrote:
Asperger96 wrote:
jetbuilder wrote:
I'm weird, and proud of it. I've decided to start letting my weirdness show, and if anyone doesn't like that I do things that make me feel more comfortable, they can kiss my a**!


Asspergers?


Yes. (not formally Dx'ed though. Psychiatrist I saw in the military, and several other people, said I probably do have AS)

Maybe I should have said: I've decided to not try so hard to come off as "normal".....


I'm pretty sure he was making a joke based on what you said and the fact that Asperger's sounds like "ass-perger's" :)


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23 Nov 2013, 1:38 am

micfranklin wrote:
Who honestly gets to decide what is "normal" anyway? There's no 10 Commandments lists on what normal is, I don't think.

I think that advertisement is the primary factor, and government policy is the second. Religion and other social influences also have some effect.



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23 Nov 2013, 1:46 am

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Maybe the worst one though happened this morning; my abnormal psych professor (who is supposed to be an expert!) was comparing the psychomotor agitation of schizophrenics with "those weird movements you see in autistics." He corrected halfway through and changed it to "different", but the fact that "weird" came out first means that that was his unconscious, automatic response; he finds stimming, and maybe autism in general, to be weird.


Wow. He really should not be saying that in this context, weird is not a scientific descriptor.

You could just respond to that with “What, like the psychomotor agitation where they smack you in the mouth for being so offensive?” That was really just a bit of foot in mouth. Everybody does it, it didn't really mean anything. He may have even felt bad about it. But if he's stupid enough to put his foot in there, you can jiggle it about a bit to get some amusement.



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23 Nov 2013, 9:56 am

StarTrekker wrote:
jetbuilder wrote:
Asperger96 wrote:

Asspergers?


Yes. (not formally Dx'ed though. Psychiatrist I saw in the military, and several other people, said I probably do have AS)

Maybe I should have said: I've decided to not try so hard to come off as "normal".....


I'm pretty sure he was making a joke based on what you said and the fact that Asperger's sounds like "ass-perger's" :)


Oh (still don't quite get it) :oops:


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23 Nov 2013, 10:00 am

loosewheel wrote:
micfranklin wrote:
Who honestly gets to decide what is "normal" anyway? There's no 10 Commandments lists on what normal is, I don't think.

I think that advertisement is the primary factor, and government policy is the second. Religion and other social influences also have some effect.


I was thinking more on the lines of a personal level.



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23 Nov 2013, 1:18 pm

If you went to my job and asked, "Who's the weird and crazy one around here?" All fingers would point to me.

I don't necessarily like being the weird and crazy one. It just turns out that way.

Being weird and crazy leads to loneliness and depression and I don't like that.

Being weird and crazy means you stick out like a sore thumb in your neighbourhood and your neighbours avoid you like the plague.

Being weird and crazy means you'll dine by yourself, watch games on TV by yourself, maybe even drop dead and nobody would know for weeks.

<--- Doesn't want to be weird and crazy any more.


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23 Nov 2013, 1:47 pm

jetbuilder wrote:
Oh (still don't quite get it) :oops:


I took it to mean "Kiss my A**...pergers!" You know, like a word play.



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23 Nov 2013, 3:35 pm

ChameleonKeys wrote:
jetbuilder wrote:
Oh (still don't quite get it) :oops:


I took it to mean "Kiss my A**...pergers!" You know, like a word play.


Thanks everyone, I'll never try to make another pun :silent: