Hate

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It takes too much energy for me to hate. I'd rather love and accept everyone. There have been times that I felt let down by the actions of a few people, though I could never hate anybody.

Neurotypicals hate others who are different than them. They fear and hate what they can't understand. I'm no psychologist, I have just thought about this myself.

I may hate a person if they do something that really screws up my life, in some way that wouldn't have happened if they hadn't been involved. I don't hate someone just for hurting me or causing me pain, I can forgive that. I only hate them if they affect the circumstances of my life in a really bad way...even if they "meant well" by it (I have never understood why people seem to think that "meaning well" gives them a free pass to screw things up).

I think NT's tend to see dislike and hate as the same thing, because if they merely suspect that someone doesn't like them they will freak out and start complaining that the person "hates" them.

To me dislike is a fairly neutral thing, there's no emotion involved, it's just a recognition or a realization: I don't like this person. Hate on the other hand is a strong emotion. I guess if NT's don't make the distinction, it is because things are more emotional for them.

I used to think hate and not like were the same thing. It's like "I hate school assemblies." "I hate going out in the rain" "I hate being sick" "I hate doing homework" "I hate group work" "I hate lasagna" and then there are people you say that about and how kids may say they hate their mom or dad or their siblings when they are mad or how they hate their teacher.

If anyone misuses the word, they don't even know what it is or it's the strong emotion they are feeling so they think they hate someone and then when they get over it, they don't feel the same way about that person anymore. Can you hate someone for a little bit and then not hate them anymore?

Because the things I hate about them are things that make my life difficult, and I want those things to not exist. I hate illogical, overly emotional people. It's impossible to have a conversation with them, they take everything personally, as if the world revolves around them, they make no sense, and, horrifyingly, don't care or even notice; they mess up their lives and can't seem to stop themselves. I don't want to live in a world with monsters like that, yet I have no control over their existence.

It's difficult to avoid them because one can never tell who they are just by looking, so avoidance is a sketchy coping strategy. It's largely because of them that I live my life ducking and dodging people. The nonsense they spew echoes in my mind for long periods of time after an interaction with them, driving me insane. I respect what other people say, so I reflect on it, but this virtue works against me in their case because I end up endlessly spinning my wheels in a fruitless attempt to make sense of the trash that comes tumbling out of their mouths (or keyboards). Their entire psychology is alien to me, so I scarcely have the satisfaction of even understanding why they are the way they are, and it's quite unpleasant to be confronted with things in life that are apparently impossible to grok.