loner1984 wrote:
Sounds like me when i was a kid.
Video games very self contained, able to get silence, focus and escape.
I mean imagine if you have problems putting your thoughts and emotions on writing. Then supposed you are being stuck in a class room with how many other people today ? here its 20-24. noisy, all the sensory input. having to focus and learn. That would cause rage in me as well, and it builds up.
Its like if you were ask to stand naked every day on the town hall and people stood there laughing or something. It can be pure torture.
Normally im never angry or mad, but if i cant get time to relax, recharge am forced for pushed into socializing with people, being stuck in a small room with noisy people, sensory input. Then as i lose my control rage builds. Last time that happened i slammed my hand so hard into a brick wall i broke a bone that pointed outwards. Not exactly fun.
Its not surprising to me at all that rage and anger is building up when you are being exposed to unpleasant things again and again. Video games is a good place to escape from all that when you are overloaded, i know it was for me. Could completely shut out the world.
As a kid i remember in class when we were told stuff like, read this book and tell us what its about, i could not do it, because i could not remember or put words on it.
or the "what do you wanna be when you get older"? well i will tell you, i wanna be somewhere peaceful and quiet.
Then to make matters worse of all that crap you have to endure, then parents start, you are playing to much video games, maybe you should go outside and socialize, I MEAN THE NEVER right. Its just torture. pure and simple. and thats what happens when a kids has problems not understood my parents and or others. Its so damn important to find out what exactly how to relax him instead of making him having to fit in.
A square peg will not fit into a round hole.
And im not expert or anything, i can just relate to this very very much, and it doesnt help being pressured, it only ends up doing more damage later in his life. Playing catch up is very hard if not nearly impossible.
Long story short, school is not a nice place to be, when you have these problems., not fun at all.
I imagine the best equal would be for an NT to be put in a prison cell everyday alone for 8 hours, every day for 10 years, and just get told to focus, I wonder how long before they would lose it, just sitting there staring at the walls, not noise, no sensory input, nobody to talk to.
Thanks, this was helpful. I go back and forth between what I think is best and what my fears and others tell me. I mostly just want him to be happy and find what he likes in life. The fear of the unknown and whether I am doing things right makes me question myself. It is hard to raise kids when I have problems myself and my husband is also on the spectrum. He usually gets mad at our son but thinks he will be fine in the end.
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Married to a undiagnosed Aspie and have 2 kids on the spectrum.
03 Jan 2014, 1:43 am
