How do you show affection?

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Just being there friend. Why didn't anyone say that??

When I was dating someone, we'd cuddle with each other. I enjoy that too.

Say I love you.

I don't show affection to others.

I've never been able to show affection in that way, except with my wife or previous girlfriends. I've never felt emotionally close to my immediate family, so don't really feel comfortable enough to hold a meaningful conversation, let alone physical displays of affection. A recent example of my awkwardness happened within a few months -- I was in contact with an old friend on facebook and went to pay him a visit. He went in for a hug and I literally shrivelled -- the next time we planned to meet, I convinced myself I wouldn't let it happen this time around and I would reciprocate....same thing again. I just can't do it...whereas my wife probably thinks I'm too full-on -- I guess I can only put my trust, or focus my attention on the person I'm with, otherwise I'm somehow compromising it with someone else?

i don't like being touched a whole lot, but some. but i like to touch, stroke, cuddle, pat my loved ones. i think that's why i like animals so much. people (even lovers) often don't like being touched as much as i instinctively do it. i have to reign it in.

i say "i love you" and use pet names.

i tease and "bust balls" particularly with men.

i do things for people i like/love. i'm pretty compulsive about this. anything from making a sandwich to taking a punch. i'm very protective. i would throw myself under a bus to save someone i love. figuratively, i already have, more than once. i'm ridiculously loyal once you get me going. not always a trait that works in my favor.

For some reason it's very difficult for me to show love and even saying "I love you " is very hard for me,it makes me embarrassed for lack of a better word and this is with my family no less. Maybe it's because the words I love you aren't enough or don't do what I'm feeling justice I don't know. Also I get annoyed when people say your actions show how you feel because for me I don't necessarily show love the same way as nt. but that doesn't mean I don't feel love I actually think I feel everything more intensely. Like from the song I like by the jonny Orr band " you show me love but just not in my time"

I hug my wife a lot, I think she needs it. Sometimes I don't notice that it's not appropriate (or quite dangerous!!)

I'm very awkward with hugging friends, I know that is the done thing, but it always feels strange. I think that making something specifically for someone is a great way to show affection - if you make it with them in mind while you are making it, it puts a kind of magic into it.

I am careful, so I ask, if I can give them a hug, or I may pat them or stroke them on shoulder or back.