Does anyone else hate speaking?

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I don't like speaking at all. I find it anxiety provoking and distractive. I am much better at saying what's on my mind through e-mail or other text-based communication.

Leave me on the computer in a Facebook group and I can talk with people almost endlessly. In real life, it doesn't always play out like that for me.

I used to have such problems with the way I spoke (stuttered, couldn't pronounce some words, forgot what I was saying mid-sentence) that I literally wanted to get a text-to-speech laptop or something. But then I stopped beating myself up about how I talked although I still get angry at how people make fun of my speaking style.

I'll probably not communicate through text-to-speech devices because I'm more independent and people would think I didn't need them, and I'm starting to think the same thing. I think my ADHD meds gave me more confidence and they also took away those speech problems temporarily.

I find it easier to talk to strangers but I get annoyed how they don't interpret what I say properly. I hate correcting people too.

I can have some pretty awful social anxiety too. So, sometimes when I speak I'm literally hating the words coming out of my mouth. I used to be that way with a guy I know quite well now. I was so awkward and anxious and everything out of my mouth just felt like I didn't actually want to be saying it, like it wasn't interesting enough. I'm so glad I'm no longer like that with him. Although I've still got quite a lot of social anxiety left over for other people.

I'm actually trying to say less to people this year. I've gone from being an extreme selective mute to talking openly to people but in some cases talking more hasn't made a person understand me any better. I still communicate better through writing.

It's exhausting and I don't know what to say most of the times. I find that I have to be the perfect actress when it comes to speaking. It's only when someone talks about my favorite topics that I let more of myself out. I'm more comfortable doing things quietly than speaking. Even if I want to socialize, I always prefer my own space. Going to get a haircut is the worst, the hairdresser always wants to chat. Only once did I find a hairdresser that shared two of my interests, but continued to talk about other stuff I couldn't relate to. I felt drained of all my energy when I came out of there and I was relieved.
E-mails and forums are fine, but conversations in real life are a pain.

Sometimes I feel like a zombie who just has to act like she's alive to blend in.

I'll put it like this - when I worked in the church office, there were a few members whom I hated having to talk to on the phone. It may have been more to do with their hearing, but these people had a really hard time understanding anything I said, and I'd have to repeat myself numerous times, and actively speak slower/louder than I would when calling other church members.

The carer just visited. There was so much small talk and I didn't speak, so I just left the room.

I hate living here.

Sometimes yes I hate speaking. It depends on the situation and how I'm feeling overall. I hate it more when I'm tired.

But what I really hate more so is hearing other people speak. Many a time I have actually wished I could be deaf so I just wouldn't have to listen to anyone else talk anymore.

I hate it in some (most) situations (at school, at parties, at meetings...). I sepeak too quietly and people usually interrupt me and don't understand what I say.

My conversations are usually like this:
-Person: [Question]
-Me: [Answer]
-Person: [Question]
-Me: [Answer]
-Person: [Comment]
[End of chat]

And I also dislike communicating by text (problem with overcorrection).

I hate real-time back-and-forth conversation of any type, including phone or texting.

I'm actually best at writing (and reading) long emails, because it can cover a lot of subjects at once, with a minimum of "hi how are you" filler crap. Plus I can read it and respond according to my own schedule, when I'm able to handle it, and I'm not put on the spot to socialize when I'm mentally frazzled.

I hate talking at any instance, whenever it is small talk or meaningful conversation. It's not because I don't care, but I am terrible at conveying the right message at the right time to people. If only I could develop telepathy and get through the redundant social games involved.

Depends on my mood: if I'm tired, stressed or unhappy/depressed, it's really difficult for me to force the words out--feels like part and parcel of a shutdown. Furthermore, I end up saying the wrong thing/not making myself understood correctly.

Any text-based stuff is okay, including chat. I think it's the physical act of speaking that becomes difficult. In any text-based communication, I can also review what I just wrote, even briefly. The fact that I have difficulty hearing makes things worse--I have to strain to understand what the other person is saying. Usually, when that's going on, my own speech becomes even more difficult for others to understand, and so on, and so forth....

I don't hate speaking, I hate listening. I mean real listening, not the pretend to listen but thinking about my video game kind. People don't usually chat about anything I'm interested in and I just can't keep my mind focused on gossip for long.

One of my sons doesn't say much at all, I think he falls in the hate speaking camp.