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auntblabby
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12 Jan 2014, 11:34 pm

what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?



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12 Jan 2014, 11:40 pm

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what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?


I think we have to take a step back from the world or deal with the emotional consequences of being constantly overwhelmed. (Anxiety, depression, extreme stress, meltdowns.)



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12 Jan 2014, 11:49 pm

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I get lost so easily in thought, I can waste an hour and not even realize it. Like, literally, I start running an internal dialogue or something or thinking about things, then suddenly it is 1 or 2 hours later and I don't know what happened.


This happens to me too, all the time, and costs me so much time that I could have spent doing something more productive. I never seem to be thinking about anything useful either, just daydreaming, mentally wandering off.


This is actually where my screen name for WP came from, I even started fleshing out environments and stuff for these "other worlds" that I visit. I have thought sometimes that I should begin writing, because I can make worlds in my head that only I know exist, I think I could try to share them with other people by writing, but I don't really know how to start, I kinda slept through all my literature and grammar courses in school, so I am probably not that great at constructing actual stories and such, just these "other worlds".



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12 Jan 2014, 11:53 pm

Makar wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?


I think we have to take a step back from the world or deal with the emotional consequences of being constantly overwhelmed. (Anxiety, depression, extreme stress, meltdowns.)

but the point I was making was what if it resulted in homelessness and oblivion?



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12 Jan 2014, 11:54 pm

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I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. Seems like everyone else is up to date and knows everything about the latest technological gadgets while I'm lucky to even know how to use my cell-phone for calling people. My mother even has a tablet and knows all about using it, although she only really got it to use while on trips and stuff. I'm thinking of getting a tablet for my birthday next month but she wants me to try hers out before I actually get my own. Maybe I'll get a a web-cam instead?


Don't feel out of the loop because of this...I am a technophile to a pretty hardcore degree, I hope I can live to see the 'singularity' someday, which is a predicted evolution of humanity permanently melding with computers and machines to achieve immortality. I know, I am a bit "out there". Despite this, despite keeping up with tech and computer trends and everything, I myself still feel lost, spun around and out of the loop a lot.

I almost thing, us aspies, autists and other spectrum types, I feel that we are not as out of the loop as we think, but we just feel this way because perhaps we are a bit detached from the world of NTs. It is almost like a lot of NTs are happily living in bubbles and not questioning things or really living, but they are able to happily go about life and just stop and smell the roses a lot, we all, on the other hand, seem to struggle to do this. Many years ago, I told one of my only friends (at the time, I pretty much have zero these days) how I felt and he tried to take me to do some outdoorsy stuff, he took me fishing on a lake, which was pretty gross and overwhelming for me (huge germaphobe), but that aside, he tried to teach me this zen stuff about just being able to slow down and enjoy this peaceful environment, and even in this relatively plain and slow environment, my mind did not slow down one bit.

I feel many people with ASD are permanently stuck in some kind of fast forward mode and feelings of being out of the loop at a side effect of that, almost because, maybe our minds move too fast for the "loop", maybe we've all actually been ahead of it the entire time.



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13 Jan 2014, 12:06 am

Yes...most of the time I feel like the world goes a lot faster than I do. But sometimes it is totally the opposite, I go into hyperdrive and the world around me is too slow.

The biggest problem I have in life is "time" because it affects everything I do. My internal sense of time never coordinates well with the world around me. I feel like a 24 hour day is too short for me, like I am programmed for a much longer, slower day. It seems like the day is over just when I am getting started.

I hate being under a time limit to do anything. It really pressures me and stresses me out. It's not a good motivator for me. I need time to space out and ponder and rest my mind.

I do a lot of things slower than other people, either because I am much more detailed than they are, or because I daydream or get sidetracked. I have been criticized in past jobs because I did things slower than they expected. I am not satisfied with just getting things done, I want things to be done right. I can't stand it when other people around me do a half-assed job at something and get praised for it, and I get criticized for taking the time to really do it right.

Some things I can do really fast, faster than other people, but I also burn out quickly when I do that.

I feel like other peoples' lives move faster than mine. A lot happens to them but in the same amount of time nothing much really changes for me.

I hold on to things for a long time and I am usually the last person I know to upgrade to something new. I don't keep up with new technology.

I haven't been to a movie in years and I rarely see any advertised that even interest me. But on the rare occasion that I notice one I might like to see, by the time I get around to actually thinking about going, I'll find out that it long since stopped playing in theaters.

When I buy perishable foods, I have to really watch it and remind myself to use it before it gets old. In my mind it "feels" like I have more time to use the food than I actually have. I will think I just bought something 2-3 days ago but when I go to use it I realize it has been over a week. I am continually surprised that food goes bad so quickly.

When I have to be somewhere at a certain time, I can't do much of anything else beforehand because I know I will just get absorbed in something else and lose all sense of time. I'm also not good at gauging how long it will take me to get ready or to drive somewhere. I tend to underestimate and end up rushing to get there on time.



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13 Jan 2014, 12:09 am

auntblabby wrote:
Makar wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?


I think we have to take a step back from the world or deal with the emotional consequences of being constantly overwhelmed. (Anxiety, depression, extreme stress, meltdowns.)

but the point I was making was what if it resulted in homelessness and oblivion?


That's pretty much my worst fear. I worry about myself because I feel like I just can't keep up with things as fast as I am supposed to.



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13 Jan 2014, 12:22 am

dianthus wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Makar wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?


I think we have to take a step back from the world or deal with the emotional consequences of being constantly overwhelmed. (Anxiety, depression, extreme stress, meltdowns.)

but the point I was making was what if it resulted in homelessness and oblivion?


That's pretty much my worst fear. I worry about myself because I feel like I just can't keep up with things as fast as I am supposed to.

when I see what ASS-P is posting about, it renews my fear that the same thing could happen to me as well.



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13 Jan 2014, 12:40 am

I'm slow. I can't do things at a steady pace. I stop to think. I drift off into thought and lose track of time.
The world is fast and noisy but I am always by myself in my own world.



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13 Jan 2014, 1:15 am

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I feel this way. It happens mostly when I'm in places that are overwhelming.

I should have known it was a bad idea but once I got a job working as a barista at a coffee shop. I got fired very quickly. I can't process what's going on around me quickly enough to do a job like that. I felt like everything was going way too fast, like I couldn't even think fast enough or act quickly enough. Everything was so overwhelming, it was like being caught in rapidly moving water and struggling to breath.

Now I have this problem in a different way mostly. I can hyperfocus for extended periods of time as long as I can stay home and stay absorbed in my interests. If I stay in the cycle of hyperfocusing 90% of the time that I'm awake I'll suddenly realize weeks or months have gone by without me really noticing much time has passed at all.


This.


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13 Jan 2014, 1:15 am

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I'm slow. I can't do things at a steady pace. I stop to think. I drift off into thought and lose track of time.
The world is fast and noisy but I am always by myself in my own world.


This, too.


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13 Jan 2014, 4:09 am

I tend to be slower than everyone else too. I got fired from a job once because I was too slow putting things on the shelves at the store.


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13 Jan 2014, 7:55 am

My sense of time is completely variable.

Sometimes I feel like everything is rushing by. I'll feel like it must be mid morning, but it's four o'clock in the afternoon. At other times if feel like I am lightning and everyone else is stuck in treacle.

I have had more slow time lately and also the sense of coming to reality after being hyper focused on something.

This can make doing my job very difficult and I am full of rational anxiety about the future.



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13 Jan 2014, 8:13 am

auntblabby wrote:
Makar wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
what will happen to us folks for whom the world has become way too fast and chaotic?


I think we have to take a step back from the world or deal with the emotional consequences of being constantly overwhelmed. (Anxiety, depression, extreme stress, meltdowns.)

but the point I was making was what if it resulted in homelessness and oblivion?


it did at one point, I have managed to get back into an apartment at least but it was sketchy for a while.

I would dearly love to find some little commune that took things slowly but I have health issues that require medication so I can't totally leave "normal" society.


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13 Jan 2014, 8:18 am

i do not really care. i define the world i live in.



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13 Jan 2014, 8:39 am

I feel like society is going along faster and faster and yet I'm unable to keep up with it. College application deadlines are fast approaching and I cannot cope with it. :(