what are some traits you do not have,

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I see what you mean! Thank you.

hmmmmmm....

Is driving a car considered multitasking? You're actually doing one thing - moving the vehicle. Still, you do have to steer the wheel, look out for pedestrians, read the street signs, observe the lights, lookout for other vehicles, press on the gas or brake pedal and shift if you're driving a stick. Probably eating while driving is considered multitasking, no?

I think social skills. I'm not anti-social. I really like meeting people and talking to them. At least in small groups. But I'm just not that good at it, and it's just more work then it worth. I suspect that many ASD people are like that though.

I agree with that, kind of. I actually kind of like crowed places sometimes. As long as it is not too crowded, and there is enough personal space. Like walking around the city, no problem. It's almost like being alone anyway, if nobody even notices you.

But florescent lights. Those things should be outlawed.

it most assuredly IS multitasking which is why I have been in so many accidents. that is a big reason I am a hermit living out in the woods away from civilization, for there is not too much traffic out here to deal with. also driving a stick shift is a bit too much for me, as is listening to music or even talking while I am driving. and you don't wanna be in the car with me and a bee, for sure!

I am not shy or introverted, actually quite the opposite as long as I have my scripts and personas intact and am not tired.

I have natural eye contact/smiling - with the exception of making eye contact/smiling to strangers in the street, but that might be a social phobia thing more.

I don't have trouble recognising body language and tone of voice and other non-verbal social things, and I didn't teach myself either, I have this ability from instinct. Don't know if I'm ''expert'' or not, but I know I don't exactly lack the ability. In other words, I am not socially oblivious.

I can lie, I am not totally honest only when I want to be. I don't unintentionally slip out things people might be offended by. I just picked up those sorts of rules through childhood, like most typical children do.

I can sense/feel how others are feeling, and can often tell what the other person's intentions are.

I don't have to be told everything in concrete. I can often work things out for myself by using common sense, my gut feeling, and certain things are usually implied.

I can express my thoughts, opinions and feelings to others (in fact I do this too much).

I don't do any obvious ''Autistic'' stims.

I have self-awareness, and know how to appear presentable/well-groomed when going out and being in contact with other people. In other words, I care.

My social awkwardness seems to be more from social phobia/social anxiety, like being too shy and too nervous to speak up because of the fear of being judged or not being heard, etc. Also I have paranoia about whether people like me or not, which also makes making friends awkward. This is probably due to so much rejection I faced in the past. I don't seem to have much typical Autistic social awkwardness what other Autistics seem to have. But I do have Asperger's because I have the other symptoms, like having intense obsessions, being prone to panic attacks and meltdowns and other emotional overreactions, and I get over-anxious and stress over things others wouldn't so much and have poor coping skills, and I have sensory issues (hate certain noises). I am only on the mild end of the spectrum, but I have enough to fit the diagnostic criteria.

Just saw your post today -- that's more like how I have always seen it, too.

Maybe it depends on how a person's mind works....what level and/or type of complexity for whatever activity (or type of activity) turns into different tasks rather than all of it being incorporated into a single task.

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for people like levon helm [multi-instrumentalist who sang while playing his instruments], fats waller [piano/organ and sang while playing his keyboards], Karen carpenter [drummer who initially sang while playing her drumset] and ringo starr [ditto] it IS all ONE task. that is because they have brain parts that do all these things automatically so they don't even have to think about it, as naturally as breathing.

I also don't have to watch People's Court everyday at 4PM. But if I have a routine, and it gets interrupted, my entire schedule goes to hell. Example if I start work everyday at 4PM, I'm there at 4PM. I don't check the clock, I don't plan to be there, thats just where I automatically will be at 4PM. If they change my schedule, and tell me to start coming at 5PM, I simply can't do that. The best option I can come up with for when that happens, is to just come to work an hour early. Then five minutes later everyday, until I get to 5PM, but that doesn't usually work. Something goes wrong and I can't get to work. Which is one reason I have never been able to keep jobs.

So yeah, while I don't feel the need to have a rigid routine, I just can't adjust to changes in my routine. Most of my routine just happens.

I don't understand. You said that the thing you lack is something other autistic people lacks too, so then what you lack is actually an autistic trait. I'm confused.

Just curious, do you get good internet out in the woods? I wouldn't mind living like that if I could find some place in the woods with good broadband.

Driving a stick shift isn't too hard once you get used to it. I don't think of it as multitasking, because I don't think about it when driving. It's just automatic for me. A another part of the driving experience. Steering, accelerating, braking, shifting.

it could be that your brain grew new parts in it to automate the various processes so it comes in as second nature. anyways where I live there is not much in the way of broadband, only "dsl-lite." upload speed is <700kb/s and download speed is <1.3mb/s. and just for that it costs me $45 per month on top of the phone bill. no cell phone coverage out here either.

Ouch, thats a deal killer. Right now I have 0.95MB up and 11.15MB down (actual speeds). I don't think I could go back to much slower speeds. At least you have DSL. I know many rural areas can't get anything but dial up.

when walmart opened up in my county they demanded and got [as they do wherever they go] upgrades to the local phone line infrastructure [meaning installation of fiber optic lines] so that enabled me to get at least a little benefit.