Can someone talk to me?

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I tired to talk to my school counselor a while back. It was not a pleasant visit. I discussed it over here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt238954.html
I would love to have an appointment for a psych but I'm not exactly rich ( I'm 18 and I don't have a job. Even though psychiatrists here a dirt cheap).

Last edited by Artemize on 15 Feb 2014, 9:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Do your best. Some work on a sliding scale. I am so sorry that you feel so alone. I was there, too. It hurts. Life gets better. I promise.

Well there's nothing I can do about it. Being an unsocialized loner won't exactly give you some real life support from somebody but hey, at least there's some random internet stranger who is genuinely concerned of me. Thanks.

I don't want you to experience the years of sadness I did.

Do your parents hate you? If not, why won't they help you?

I can't really tell, but I'm pretty sure that my siblings hate me. As for the reason why my mum keeps ignoring it, maybe she's afraid of knowing that I am autistic or what not. Or maybe she just think that I'm just looking for attention. I've been trying to convince her since last year but she just won't budge. It's okay though, I'm already used to this.

I need to go do something right now and I won't be back for 2 hours. Please stay in touch. I am concerned about you. Peace.

I can definitely connect with this, I have the hardest time connecting with people. I will say that I have given myself a technique where I use humour to try and contribute a bit more to a contribute a bit more to a conversation. Well mostly sarcasm, like sarcastic observations.

And I tried to use fuller sentences and use a few variances of words, it is possible to make some changes to your vocabulary if you give yourself practice, and with yes or no questions it is okay to repeat the question. Example to being told the weather is good: "Yeah, the weather is good." Perhaps make another observation, and if your response may be within your interest you can give a basic lead up that can kind of summarise it to someone who may not know, not necessarily in-depth. Sure it can become awkward afterwards as you don't know what to say next, but it can feel like a step forward.

But I suck at talking to new people anyway. I had this horrible situation last year where I went to a social event with laser tag, but could talk to no one, and some friends I did have that were on the spectrum were completely okay with talking to new people. My interest has been in mythology which is nowhere needed for daily life and thus does not start except for niche situations, although I also know games and anime.

Why do you think your siblings hate you? I am not sure if this will be helpful but I think people often attack people who are feeling vulnerable. Yes we are a messed up species. Maybe you should be a bit more firm with others. You need to see yourself as the authority. If the people closest to you are not supportive simply do not concern yourself with their opinion. Others will respond to this. At some point young adults need to stop looking up to their parents.
We can talk about anything you like

Not around here! Seriously, I think you are in a great position to do stuff you genuinely love and eventually earn a decent living - just sponge up as much knowledge as you can, get the best education that you can (hopefully you live some place where that's accessible without going into hock for the rest of your life), and ignore all the ultimately meaningless distractions of trying to fit in. It's really not worth it. I won't go into it in detail here, but several decades ago I was in what might have been a very similar situation, but got zero help, guidance or assistance, so never got to do what I really wanted to do. I do think you can avoid that since there's much more acceptance and appreciation of people like us these days. My humble suggestion would be to focus on those interests of yours for the very long term and persist stubbornly. You WILL get through it, or as has been said in other contexts, it gets better.

I like computerland. Although i still tend to debate all topics there. How specific do you want to get? only chip design / electrical engineer topics? or do programmers and such count?

Computer engineers or electricians, maybe? People who design hardware or program, and like their jobs, probably do share interests with you.

I can see how it can be hard to tell the difference between someone who likes to *use* computers and someone who likes to *study* computers. Many gamers don't know a lot about how a computer actually works even though they're quite proficient in making one do what they want. Your angle seems to be more theoretical, and so people with similar interests would be much rarer than the large group of computer gamers.