Do you connect better with kids than adults?

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Yes. I related to them so well when i was younger that I chose to make a career out of it. I was very alone as a child and so I hung out with mostly the adults cause non of my cousins my age wanted to play with me, or me with them. I ended up watching the babies or young toddlers around age 8 and my sister was born around that time too. I took care of my younger sister and my best friend was six years younger than I. I was best friends with her since the day she was born. It eventually became clear to the adults that I was great with kids and kids loved me so I ended up being the one "stuck" with the children all the time while the cousins my age, my older sister and the adults all went and had fun at the family get togethers. I grew from there to be a babysitter to neighborhood children and then from their I did YMCA childcare, after school and summer. When I was 18 I finally got a position as a preschool teachers aid and up until 2 years ago, I was a two year old teacher. (10 years later). Now I am a stay at home mom with a 3 year old and a 5 month old and my 3 year old son is my best friend. Everyone comments on how good and respectful my children are and I believe its because I relate to them and I listen and understand them unlike a lot of adults who just want control and power of being a parent/teacher. I really do fit in better with kids and its a bit odd for some parents to watch and many times when i would offer to babysit when I worked in the preschool, the parents would find it kinda odd. I like how they do not judge and you can always tell what is wrong with them. They are fresh and innocent and have more compassion about people who are different than adults do. I hope to open a home preschool one day. As long as you are good to those kids, I am glad you found a comfortable profession!

I have had such a variety of nice and mean adults and kids that I don't even judge on age, I subconsciously judge on how nice people are to me mainly I think. If an adult and kid was a jerk to me, I would have the same feeling, and if a kid and adult was awesome to me, I would also have the same feeling for both.

To clarify this, I find that adults who are willing to embrace their "inner children" are usually mature and intelligent, but also not overly serious, and instead of obsessing over their work or other "adult" things, they tend to have cool hobbies like collecting music, fixing up vintage cars, or playing computer games.

Likewise, I find that people in their preteen years (10-12, sometimes up to 13 or 14) tend to act more mature than younger children, and even most teenagers, but since they realize that they are "still kids", they don't try too hard to act older than they really are, and as a result they're more easygoing and they tend to have interests and hobbies more in line with the sort of things I like, rather than things like partying or dating or whatever teenagers and young adults are into nowadays.

i get on better with kids. the ones who havent learnt to be things like "spiteful" yet.

but due to social stigma around male adults and kids, i keep my distance. c'est la vie.

be careful to make sure everything you do meets the appropriate code of conducts / rules. people will not hesitate to hang you out to dry otherwise.
good luck. and im glad you are enjoying your work. that is always most rewarding.

I've always gotten along better with older people, ever since I was a kid. Older people as in old people usually with white or gray hair unless dyed. (:

As a kid, I tended to connect better with adults and I could speak their language more easily. I could and did connect with other kids but more often than not it took more effort on my part. As an adult, I seem to connect more easily with dogs than people.

I get along best with kids and disabled people. Older, healthy, adults are kind of hit it miss, and young adults and teens are just plain obnoxious.

I connect much better with adults than with children.

I have an hypothesis about that.

As a child, many aspies will communicate better with adults 1) because their interests often lead them to topic that are more interesting to adults than to children, and 2) because most children spend their time together learning mammal territorial politics (games of status, power, domination, manipulation, submission, etc.) which is something autistic people don't do intuitively, whereas intelligent and healthy NT adults compete for status with other adults but have no interest in playing power games with children.

As adults, many aspies have difficulties relating to other adults because they find themselves caught into the "grown up" version the same type of power games, except it is not even a game anymore but a matter of social (and sometimes physical) survival.

aww thank you! I appreciate you and this post. I feel exactly the same way, I'm 20 and a snowboard instructor. I love communicating with kids so much! it's always a fun time to make them smile and laugh