Ever have another aspie shame you?

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16 Feb 2014, 3:01 am

have personaly been told in no uncertain terms to get off by a number of WP members because am low functioning which somehow threatened the bigoted,elitist and irrationaly afraid individuals concerned.
was told the opinions of mine werent worth anything and to keep out of any threads that werent simple/random.

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I've had someone on this here tell me that I was lower functioning than he thought I was. That was the time that I was fixated on Routemasters. I've forgiven him, but it still hurts. At least I'm not hellbent against society anymore and I was able to go back to being my sweet original self again, though without the glasses I didn't need in the first place. Once again, I'm able to lay everything out in my avatars ranking and signature, saying this is me and this is what I'm like, it's okay for me to show that I'm vulnerable which is a human way of being. I forgave and did for myself what I needed to do and it's still working after 4 and a half years. I just don't make as many posts about my interests anymore.

with all respect a lot of people on here are not very familiar with autism outside of wrongplanet and dont understand what autistic functioning really refers to, cockney.

its got nothing to do with being more fixated on interests than others, its dependant on the persons IQ; if its lower than a certain point, its low functioning-or better refered to as the low functioning spectrum as it focuses on how we all vary not basing the term on the most affected,and if its higher than that certain point;its high functioning- again its better refered to as the high functioning spectrum because everyone differs.

whether the person is in the low or high functioning spectrum, the autism,behavior,understanding,level of social awareness and social rules understanding, communication,interaction,personal care, and ability to support themselves will present differently;a IQ is what manipulates a person and a better IQ makes people have a wider mental capacity which allows them to develop very well, learn better coping skills and understand better.

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16 Feb 2014, 3:33 am

I'd think most aspies guilty of said social crime are probably ignorant of it at the time.

I'm sure I've shamed before, but I know I never intended to. If I caught myself doing it I'd certainly stop.

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16 Feb 2014, 4:48 am

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Have to say you are my best teacher of autism on WP

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16 Feb 2014, 1:35 pm

KingdomOfRats wrote:

have personaly been told in no uncertain terms to get off by a number of WP members because am low functioning.
was told the opinions of mine werent worth anything and to keep out of any threads that werent simple/random.

That's reprehensible.

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16 Feb 2014, 7:03 pm

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went to school with asd kids and there were plenty who were jerks, stuck up and bullies.
high functioning kids would insult and ridicule low functioning.

That's horrible. If I was there, I would have protected you.

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16 Feb 2014, 8:01 pm

Shame stinks. I don't like it. It makes me feel bad. SCREW YOU SHAME!! !!

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16 Feb 2014, 8:31 pm

I have felt shamed for:
- not being functional enough to hold down a job
- finding comfort in my autism diagnosis, instead of being dysfunctional for no reason
- needing my autism 'label' in order to understand myself

I've never been called out personally, but whenever I see these attitudes it makes me sad. I don't understand what is so horribly wrong with wanting to understand your issues better, so that you can learn to cope with them, and to forgive yourself for having a neurological disorder that isn't your fault.

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16 Feb 2014, 9:30 pm

Something similar did happen to me like that. I once chatted with this young, aspie girl through this network called "Wrong Planet" which you probably have heard of and our conversations went smooth until, with no malice intended of course, I said "I wish could meet you in person" which ended it and I've regretted saying that ever since.

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16 Feb 2014, 9:44 pm

I had a similar situation where one aspie did shame me, but it was not of the kind that you're thinking off.

I once met this girl online through this web , you have probably have heard , called "Aspie Affection" and I have had consversations with her until one time I said " I wish I could met you in person" and then she got a little upset with me and terminated our conversations.

I've regretted it ever since and as an Aspie I've should've known better.

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16 Feb 2014, 9:54 pm

hihowareyou wrote:

My old aspie friends use to shame me all the time. I didn’t really notice at the time but looking back they did. I also recently met another aspie who is doing the same thing.

My guess would be that:

1. Some aspies/autists are in denial and try to act like they are NT.

2. They think they are higher-functioning and you are inferior.

Anybody else have similar stories?

Yes,a teenager asperger Girl,she brag how she was so much milder
than me.

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16 Feb 2014, 11:56 pm

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I've had people on this site shame me for still living with my parents and not having a job. They think that just because they have Asperger's and are able to live independently and hold down a job, it means that every person with Asperger's should.

This. X1000 It's the #1 think I hate about WP.

I've also had people invalidate my issues because they are jealous that I am in a romantic relationship. "At least you have a boyfriend.." Really??

And I've had people shame me for not being over my traumatic past. I still live w/ my abusers, you can't heal from a wound until the knife is pulled out.

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16 Feb 2014, 11:58 pm

metaldanielle wrote:

"At least you have a boyfriend.."

I think you missed the note.

Having a partner solves all of life's problems.

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17 Feb 2014, 12:10 am

Dillogic wrote:

metaldanielle wrote:

"At least you have a boyfriend.."

I think you missed the note.

Having a partner solves all of life's problems.

lol I wish.

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17 Feb 2014, 12:43 am

IdahoRose wrote:

I'll admit I'm guilty of this one.

I try my best not to "shame" though - I fully realize that the vast majority of us will have difficulty holding down a job. I struggle to get along with co-workers, but my job is about as anti-social as it gets so I guess I'm okay in that sense.

But, having said that - I do feel, as though (not pointing fingers to anyone here) Some aspies hide in their comfort zone, especially by staying on the internet. I realize how difficult it is being autistic, but I truly feel as though some of us need to learn how to take steps outside the comfort zone. It's nice, but we can't achieve happiness in life if we stay in a shell forever, ya know?

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