banned from board games

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I have never been banned from any board games but this thread reminds me of Rain Man when Charlie and his brother get kicked out of Las Vegas because of the ability to memorize cards.

Board game interactions depend totally on the people you are playing with.

I think a lot of the confusion here comes from the belief that playing a board game with others is only about winning and thus impressing the other people.

That's not a bad way to go. Why shouldn't you win, if you are able? That is the design of the game. Says so right there at the start of the rules: Winner is X who manages to do X. Hooray!

But some groups of people get together to play board games as a social gathering. Not to see who's best. And if you focus more on being the best, than on watching - and maybe even joining - the conversation and the teasing, and whatever else is going on around the table, you can sometimes be labelled a "spoilsport" - not to the game, but to the social nature of the gathering.

So figure out what type of group you are playing with. And what type of group you WANT to play with. If you can't abide putting observation first and gameplay second, start getting into COMPETITIVE SCRABBLE or CHESS clubs, where the RESPECT of the group goes to the WINNER>

If you just wanna hang with yo homies, or they are inviting you to spend time with them, then from time to time during the game, let yourself get distracted by conversation. Don't worry if you didn't roll that seven that you needed. Being at the table is already a win. Even if you lose the title.


Summing up:
1. If you see the purpose of board games is to be the best, find professional level leagues.
2. If you want to hang out with the other people at the table, realize that hanging out is the win.

I'm thinking the OP was at some group activities center, and ended up making a bad rep for himself.

We'll only know when he replies to those who've asked how you can be banned from board games. Until then, we won't know, and it's hard to comment about something when you've got only half the story.

Hopefully we'll get some input from the OP soon.

I remember one incident when I was a kid where I was playing some version of snakes and ladders with my mother, and when she stepped away for a second I moved some of the pieces around. It was obvious that I was cheating, so she took the board away and told me that that's the reason why she won't play board games with me. It would be a couple more years before I actually started playing board games seriously, without getting frustrated and attempting to cheat.

There was also an incident a couple years back when I was playing a group game of Magic: The Gathering with my uncle and one of my friends, and my uncle threatened to quit playing it with me due to my predatory playing style. Basically, my friend had near-total control of the field, and there was no use to try and break his defenses, so I went after my uncle just so I could take out another player before my eventual loss. In hindsight, it was a major as*hole move, and I really should have tried working with my uncle to break my friend's defense instead.

Oh, and there was also an incident where I dropped into a random server on Cube 2 (an open-source FPS with gameplay similar to Quake), and there must of been a clan match going on or something, but I was just screwing around, n00bing it up, playing really badly, when I got kickbanned from the server. The inverse almost happened to me once on Unreal Tournament, where I was playing on a Strangelove mod server, and people started accusing me of hacking and started disconnecting left and right just because I happened to be playing rather well. I wasn't using any cheats whatsoever, and I never would for an online game, yet I was being accused of it.

O.P., Do you have anger issues?

Who has the power to ban you from board games? I can see that someone might say they won't play them with you anymore, but who in the world can tell a grown man he can't play board games, and he listens?

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Glad I am not the only one that struggles with board games. I have never been banned but the last time I played a board game I got really worked up and got angry when I couldn't control stuff or when other people were winning. People kept saying calm down its just a game but I couldn't calm down and it stressed me out so much. We played Settlers of Catan, I loved the strategy part of the game I was really good at that and had a very logical answer for each thing I did when I talked to my partner about it. Though I struggled when the game didn't go my way. I would try to argue my case for why you shouldn't rob me and people were like calm down its just a game but to me it was more then that I don't know why. I was so focused on the strategy of the game and trying to win that I didn't think of how I am reacting to other people playing and ruining there game. I have also been known to throw cards or pieces on the ground from games when I get frustrated. I'm not fun to pay with.

People would only play Monopoly with me once or twice as not only would I always win, but I would appear to help them out by giving them the bank, purely so that I could win the bank as well, I wasn't happy unless I won every last item in the game.

After that I would play myself, and still play until I owned everything.

I just really want to know who "banned" him and from where?

I believe he's an adult and lives at home. I lived at home for a couple years as an adult and these are the things they can ban you from. "Don't take my car anywhere!" "Don't be coming in this house after 1am!" "Stay off my phone after I go to bed!" "Those are my Frosted Mini Wheats, don't eat them!" They really can't say "You can't play board games". They can say "You can't play board games with us" or "You can't ever play our board games in this house".

Adulthood. Once you achieve escape velocity, and escape velocity isn't always measured by you moving out either. I achieved it at about 17.

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I figured out the chances of each sum of two six-sided dice when I was about ten years old. From this, I was able to deduce the times when a person was most likely to land on one of my Monopoly properties. On my last turn before theirs, I would build up those properties to the maximum allowed under the rules, and drive my opponents into bankruptcy.

It wasn't so much that I was "banned" from playing Monopoly as it was that my siblings and parents got tired of losing against me.

I am verry merry berry aggressive when I play board games. My objective is to win and crush my competitors.