We are "socially ret*d"?

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I prefer socially deficit.

But yes.

Of course. My dad is too.

I am socially ret*d.

Yup

I don't mind the term. I feel like I have social retardation. That's it. My socializing skills and underdeveloped and clumsy. If there weren't people out there that liked me for some reason I wouldn't have friends because I can't make any on my own. (well, just the one) That's the bottom line.

I realize one should commit to a,

"What's best for the group"-mentality

to gain better social skills (I believe!). This way, actual bullying turns into simple "teasing", because the group means more than you as an individual.


But the big dilemma is,

Would you rather put up with bullying from higher-ranked group-members or be excluded from the group? You cannot both be accepted by the group and not put up with being bullied by individuals who do better in the group than you do.

I tend to rather want to be excluded from the group and avoid the bullying (or "teasing" as they call it).

I don't think that "socially ret*d" is the right way to describe it. I think that "socially impaired" is. Think about it for a second. Why do we call are ability to socialize "social skills". NT's don't. Unlike NT's, in which there emotions are directly connected to there bodily expressions. We on the other hand have to use "acting skills" to compensate for that neurological function that is missing from are brains. If you think about. "social skills" is a subset of "acting skills". So instead to saying "socially ret*d". I would say something like "acting skills ret*d" or "lacking acting skills".

I have verry merry berry low social cognition and verry merry berry delayed development of social cognition, so social retardation is the correct term for me.

On the scale of social retardation, I am an idiot in implicit social cognition and an imbecile in explicit social cognition, and this combination makes me a social dunce, I decided.

Not Alpha Material.

ret*d is not a good word to use. We may struggle in social situations but it doesn't mean we are ret*d.

http://www.parents.com/blogs/to-the-max ... rd-retard/

ret*d comes from the latin Latin ret*dāre to delay, protract, equivalent to re- re- + tardāre to loiter, be slow, derivative of tardus slow; see tardy

It basically means slow, just because someone struggles with social cues doesn't mean they are slow, they may be very intelligent in other areas. Also ret*d was associated with intellectual disabilities , Autism is not an intellectual disability. Plus people find it offensive now a days even describing people with intellectual disabilities, it basically has the connotation of being stupid, and from what I know about a lot of people with Aspergers they are NOT stupid.

Socially ret*d. Being ret*d is a disability. So socially disabled.
Yeah, being socially disabled is one of the main parts of autism.
Some people are better at overcoming a disability than others.
But it is a disability, not a character flaw.

But when people with intellectual difficulties get called ''intellectually ret*d'' everyone gets offended.

I have scattered social skills. Some social skills I am instinctively good at like the average person (like having an ability to read body language and tone of voice and facial expressions and recognising when someone is joking or not), whilst other social skills I have trouble with. But my social deficits are more due to social anxiety and shyness.

I am more bad at maths than I am at socialising. So that makes me mathematically ret*d?

i prefer to be referred to as 'socially awkward' too.

We are no more socially ret*d than people who only know one language are linguistically ret*d. If you have simply been exposed to it but haven't been taught it, you can't learn it. You have to make it a point to learn it, just like you would if you were trying to learn Spanish or Italian or something.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

I'm quite happy to describe myself as socially ret*d, as the meaning of these words isn't too difficult to grasp for the vast majority or intellectually ret*d NT folk.