Ashariel wrote:
Denny, I agree with you, and I'm sorry if my comment was triggering. I'm definitely one of those who would have preferred to be diagnosed as a child, and to have received help, instead of falling through the cracks to the point where my life turned into a complete disaster.
At the same time, I have to respect what others have said here, who have been in the opposite position, and that's what I was trying to express with my comment. It seems it's not an easy road, whether you're diagnosed or not.
But for what it's worth – yes I do suspect that therapists, parents, and teachers all face this difficult dilemma, whether to formally diagnose a child or not. I
do suspect they often try to convince themselves (naively so) that the child's problems aren't as serious as they imagine. I know that's how my own parents and teachers felt. "She's a smart girl, she'll eventually find her place in the world." (Um, no.)
Anyway, I am sorry if my comment offended. (I seem to find myself apologizing for at least 50% of the posts I make these days... I really should just shut up!
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Hello Ashariel.
Thanks but I don't believe you owe me an apology. I understand your experiences (everyone's experiences) are different from everyone else's therefor generating different comments. I don't believe you were trying to be mean or condescending to me or anyone else. I'm in love with the world and you know what they say: "Love means never having to say you're sorry."
So don't feel bad and perhaps let ME apologize for the (definitely) strong manner I used to express myself. It's only been about 2 years since I learned Asperger's applied to me and my strong emotions sometimes just "pop out." When I first discovered my Asperger's, and not knowing anything about existing Asperger's support programs, my "righteous anger" over lack of screening, etc. was ridiculous in it's stupidity and intensity......I'm still embarrassed over this.
But I still stand by my basic idea because waiting to find out about yourself until you're 68 is no fun. And it leads to thoughts like: I wonder what would have happened if only.............(which leads nowhere and just upsets). I already run enough NT fantasies in my brain. I feel if I had had the information about Asperger Syndrome when I was young I might have been able to plan my life, and the life of my family better in many ways.
Nice talking with you.
denny
denny