screen_name wrote:
It's standard small talk.
I also hate it. I hated being asked about school when I looked school-age and was not in school. I really isolated myself during those years and that question was the primary reason.
My mother encouraged me to be a "politician" about it and just not answer the question and share something interesting instead.
When I find myself in social situations I use, "what is new and interesting in your life right now?" instead because it opens up more possibilities. It could be work, personal/family life, interest, etc. I think it cuts more to the point of what you actually want to do: give the other person an opportunity to share something important in their life.
When I wasn't in school I just told people I was homeschooled. Now that I'm back in school I hate being asked what grade I'm in. I'm grade 12 age, but my file says I'm in grade 11. I'm in grade 9 and 10 courses, so I think they were being nice when they said I'm in grade 11. I hate when people in my class ask what grade I'm in. Luckily that's only happened once and no one's ever asked about my age.
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Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 82 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 124 of 200
You are very likely neurotypical