How to Stop Dressing Like a Teenager?

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Now that you remind me, it is true that people can suddenly see someone in a very different light if they see them dressed up -- when you described the girl you saw suddenly dressed up one day and realized she was attractive after all, and when you were seen differently too, yes, this is something people will tend to do.

I also agree that people tend to treat a person better the more "presentable" they are in terms of clothes and hair, etc. I've had that same experience myself. Within the space of one day I was treated sh***y and with massive courtesy by store clerks -- and the only difference was that in one errand I went out with zero make-up, hair in a messy ponytail, and I'd pulled on sweats or some other uber-casual attire. The second errand I ran that day, I had done my makeup (I don't even wear a lot, but just enough to look a lot better and more presented) and I'd combed out my hair (I don't style much but even so, there's messy ponytail and then there's "taken care of."!) I also put on nicer clothes -- still casual, actually, but a step up from just sweats.

I got treated with indifference and curtness in my "natural" state, and with politeness and courtesy in my more carefully groomed state.

So I do get what you mean. It's kind of sad but true.

I still think that if a woman will only really notice how great you are if you are "done up to the nine's" (male equivalent!) then I have to wonder how right she is for you the rest of the time.

But...perhaps a compromise, in which you aim for what they call "smart-casual"? Jeans and a t shirt but maybe with a smart, snazzy blazer jacket or suit jacket over them?

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I typically wear a baggy t-shirt and jeans. Long sleeves that are tight (ie, not jackets) are a big no-no for me. I too get criticized for my lack of fashion sense, but I argue, the heck with it, I'm comfortable

I am probably among the few who actually like to dress nicely. I used to wear a t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers all the time, but nowadays I'm more likely to be wearing a collared shirt and some comfortable slacks, while most of the people at work will wear jeans. I do have several suits that I will wear for occasions that allow for it, and even rocked a tuxedo at an event last weekend (because bow ties are cool).

Although I'm a "nice guy" with a solid sense of humor and a good sense of fashion, I do not seem to attract the girls. Maybe they are interested, but they do not convey it in a way that I can recognize, although a few weeks ago I was complemented on the socks I was wearing, so I must be doing something correctly, and I've been asked by a close relative's former GF for relationship advice, despite never being in one myself

I think that men who wear the kinds of clothes that Dr. Spencer Reid wears on Criminal Minds are hot.

I couldnt' find your picture in the member's section.