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28 Mar 2014, 10:40 pm

I don't get why you would be so happy to have a major brain defect. Autism isn't something desirable, it is a major impairment.



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28 Mar 2014, 10:44 pm

I don't get why you would be so happy to have a major brain defect. Autism isn't something desirable, it is a major impairment.



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29 Mar 2014, 3:36 am

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I don't get why you would be so happy to have a major brain defect. Autism isn't something desirable, it is a major impairment.

I'll try to explain: I am not desiring to have aspergers, but since I have it anyway and this won't change, it is much better to be recognized by a specialist and receive the help than to remain undiagnosed and not knowing why I do the things I do.



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29 Mar 2014, 3:47 am

linatet wrote:
DVCal wrote:
I don't get why you would be so happy to have a major brain defect. Autism isn't something desirable, it is a major impairment.

I'll try to explain: I am not desiring to have aspergers, but since I have it anyway and this won't change, it is much better to be recognized by a specialist and receive the help than to remain undiagnosed and not knowing why I do the things I do.


OK, my mistake. This I can understand, it is good to know what is wrong with us.



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29 Mar 2014, 3:59 am

DVCal wrote:
linatet wrote:
DVCal wrote:
I don't get why you would be so happy to have a major brain defect. Autism isn't something desirable, it is a major impairment.

I'll try to explain: I am not desiring to have aspergers, but since I have it anyway and this won't change, it is much better to be recognized by a specialist and receive the help than to remain undiagnosed and not knowing why I do the things I do.


OK, my mistake. This I can understand, it is good to know what is wrong with us.


I like to thing of it as a game from the game theory (or maybe I am just addicted to it), even though I will be changing the basic assumptions so it is not game theory anymore. The outcome does not depend on my choice alone, but also the choice of the second player (destiny? genetic? God?). But you would have to suppose the second player is not rational but random, or that God gets better pay-offs creating some impaired people, I don't know :lol:
Then second player chooses strategy "have (this certain degree of) aspergers", I know what the other player's choice is, so I get a better pay off choosing "get diagnosed" then "not getting diagnosed" or "killing myself" for instance. Note I can't change the outcome because it depends on the other player's choice, but since it is "have aspergers" it is better for me to choose "get diagnosed". So the outcome is "have aspergers" and "get diagnosed".



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29 Mar 2014, 4:20 am

Congrats!
Now, you´ll probably be evaluating your difference for yourself in the months to come.
REMEMBER to point out and examine your special strengths even more!


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29 Mar 2014, 4:47 am

You were diagnosed in such a short time, isn't that really unprofessional?

I remember seeing a child psychiatrist for quite a while before I found out...



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29 Mar 2014, 5:01 am

Child psychiatrist? A 19 year old?
Remember, that Linatet says, that there aren´t many AS specialists in Brazil, so a psychiatrist would probably look for characteristics of an 8 year autistic boy.


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29 Mar 2014, 5:13 am

Acedia wrote:
You were diagnosed in such a short time, isn't that really unprofessional?

I remember see a child psychiatrist for quite a while before I found out...

no, because I didn't receive any papers. But I didn't want the papers, only the confirmation, so technically it isn't an official diagnosis but an informal one.
I am going to have a session with her every week from now on. this was only the first one. But even if this was the first one in the end I asked her: "do you think I have aspergers?" She answered: "I do" :)
she knew exactly what she was looking for. To be honest I am sure she is right and that I have aspergers and also I think it seems pretty obvious to anyone that knows what aspergers is.



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29 Mar 2014, 5:17 am

Jensen wrote:
Child psychiatrist? A 19 year old?
Remember, that Linatet says, that there aren´t many AS specialists in Brazil, so a psychiatrist would probably look for characteristics of an 8 year autistic boy.

yeah.
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I think a big part of why I was diagnosed so early is that I'm an american male. I've noticed that it's a lot easier to get a diagnosis of any type of neurological abnormality here than in most of Europe (where I assume you're from).

I live in Brazil. Much worse to get a diagnosis than Europe, probably.


to give you guys a context I live in one of the biggest and most important cities in my country. (those are Brasília, São Paulo and Rio de Janeiro, I live in the last one) and even here it was hard to find someone that knew about aspergers. Imagine other places...
my psychologist said in the country there isn't much research on aspergers, this area is still on the first steps. Like I wrote on the introductory post, there are psychologists here saying that Isabelle in Mozart and the whale can't have aspergers because she fell in love! Unbelievable. No problem with aromantic asexuals, but they say it as if we didn't have feelings. Another psychologist went to a tv program and compared aspies to mass murders! Later an indignant mother wrote a reply on the internet saying her aspie son asked her: "mom, am I going to kill people when I grow up?"



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29 Mar 2014, 5:20 am

linatet wrote:
Acedia wrote:
You were diagnosed in such a short time, isn't that really unprofessional?

I remember see a child psychiatrist for quite a while before I found out...

no, because I didn't receive any papers. But I didn't want the papers, only the confirmation, so technically it isn't an official diagnosis but an informal one.
I am going to have a session with her every week from now on. this was only the first one. But even if this was the first one in the end I asked her: "do you think I have aspergers?" She answered: "I do" :)


Oh okay.... :)



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29 Mar 2014, 5:28 am

I think my greatest challenges right now are executive (dis)function, because college is being a nightmare with too many things and underachievement; and identity issues, so that I can stop this stupid social echolalia and start being myself, whoever that is. Later I can work on other things with the psychologist like social skills and anxiety. If I could work on all those things life would be much easier and happier!
I hope I am not expecting too much of a psychologist help though. :p



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29 Mar 2014, 10:14 am

linatet wrote:
I think my greatest challenges right now are executive (dis)function, because college is being a nightmare with too many things and underachievement; and identity issues, so that I can stop this stupid social echolalia and start being myself, whoever that is. Later I can work on other things with the psychologist like social skills and anxiety. If I could work on all those things life would be much easier and happier!
I hope I am not expecting too much of a psychologist help though. :p


It sounds like you are walking in the same footsteps I did a few years ago. I did expect too much from the psychologist and I learned that most of the work will have to come from me. I had to put in the effort and do the research. The psychologist was just a guide for me. At one point I got really down on myself because I felt I wasn't improving fast enough. In two years the psychologist didn't fix me. She taught me how to relax and let go of anxiety. She taught me how to recognize my thoughts and emotions and suggest alternative thoughts to myself to stop myself from fixating. And most importantly she taught me how to accept myself for who I am. I still have many problems, but I learned to recognize and congratulate for myself for the progress that I have made. I congratulate you on your first step of this new journey of self-discovery. Just remember that every journey is one step at a time.



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30 Mar 2014, 1:35 am

Congrats! I'm happy for you, the relief must be exhilarating! :cheers:


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