Does it get better?

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Internal locus of control = win

Verry merry berry true for me too.

one eventually gets used to it. then when one gets used to it, life throws a curve.

When I bought my car I could barely use 3rd gear, now my shifter is even worse but I never hear it grind - I can go faster just skipping 3rd anyway!

It indeed gets better when/if one decides to CODE ALL THE THINGS.

Muahaha! You shall never find me!

I would also add developing resilience and boundaries. If life is considered bad every time something goes wrong and you mentally hit the "reset" button, things might be good for a few weeks or months at best.

Don't forget to check on the secret underground passage out to the forest. Might be one there.

In some ways it can sometimes, but it can also get worse in a lot of ways...so perhaps it gets better and worse.

Also I noticed overcoming obstacles and such have been mentioned, well what then if you don't overcome all your obstacles? I doubt everyone overcomes all their obstacles sometimes you have to choose your battles.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 29 Apr 2014, 11:45 am, edited 1 time in total.

it doesn't get better, not in my experience. but i think that's just me, if your aspergers gives you the gift of superior (135+) intelligence it does not get better. you'll reflect on everyday on what an NT will have experienced but as a aspie you have missed. that will tear you apart in the long run and make you miserable whenever you feel down. then you'd have to scramble to maintain a constant high so that doesn't happen.

i sometimes wonder if my aspie didn't gift me with higher intelligence, if i was just average, perhaps i won't feel this way, i won't yearn for the NT life that i do not have the ability to experience. in many ways my aspie has cost me my childhood and teen year,s it's like they didn't exist. it causes a gap in my life that i can't handle the responsibilities of my age because i have not experienced and grown when i was supposed to.

It kinda depends.

Does it get better? well i guess it depends on your specific problems.

Do i have an easier time accepting myself for who iam ? yeah i do.

But overall i would say it gets worse, as you get older you stick more and more out of the norm and you notice it, when people walking on the screen, having not just girlfriends, but at my age people are having kids. i kinda still feel like im stuck at an age around 18 or so in many regards.

And it sure doesnt get easier as you get older, because people see right through you easier, its harder to fake stuff. When they talk about stuff i have zero interesting in, that doesnt make sense, like career ambitions what ?, kids what ?.

And the older you get, if you are already a loner, you can pretty much forget about meeting new people let alone getting friends, its gonna be a long life alone.

It might get better for some people. for me it doesnt, i find i have less and less mental energy, i feel worn out, from so many years being overloaded.

but again it depends on you, your situation, if you have friends, family, if not, its definitely a up hill battle. to just keep it from not getting worse.

The stuff i think about, is how many years will it take from the day i die, to someone find outs. A most depressing though, when you often hear about people being dead sitting in front of their tv for 1-2-5-10 years, before someone notices.

Yes, it gets better if you work on your issues. Like all habits, they get easier as you keep at them. Simple as that.

Yes, if you work at it. Health (mental/physical) via diet & exercise, knowledge via studying/reading/learning/doing etc along with skills, accomplishments, happiness, wealth etc - everything can & does get better if you work at making it so. It doesn't just happen by magic. You've got to do the hard work. Nothing worth doing is easy, but the results of hard work are well worth it.

some folk don't have the presence of mind to do hard work, or they find themselves lifelong toilers in futile drudgery but never can figure out how to work smart. that is me, see? it is also most people I know. the problem is also that the lions' share of smart hard workers can't waste their time helping the struggling stragglers they most often refuse to even see.

But then there are people like me. Smart, but previously incapable of hard work due to neurological constraints.. but smart enough to keep learning until I figured out what they were, and then how to successfully treat them and get on with hard work and life, health and wealth.. and then I've come back here repeatedly to share my success story and tell others exactly how I've gone about it. Unfortunately most people here think I'm full of s**t and completely ignore what I've shared. And THAT is why so many smart hard working people can't be bothered to spend their precious time helping the struggling straggles who refuse to help themselves.