I got surprised to discover how others see me!

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You're certainly not alone here. I just posted a very similar scenario to yours. Basically not coming across how I want to in social situations. Its very difficult for us but we can learn and ease the pain of it. I think the key is being honest about the disorder and not being so hard on yourself. I tend to beat myself up inside and this is counter productive.

Many of those things are basic aspie traits so its no real problem.
"I move too much and speak too fast and people don't understand what I am saying"
But this might be something you could ask for an example and try to improve upon, like speaking slower, be more aware of your body language and providing correct context. You may not be perfect but you can improve.
Most people will see you as different because you are, but thats ok.
Some will not like or trust you no matter what you do. You can do you best to accommodate but other peoples prejudices may always be there. And some will actively undermine and work against you. In some situations it is best to just cut your losses and move on.

Someone once said that I was like a robot.

I also find this hard to comprehend.

It seems like you have lots of friends. I would bet that they like you just the way you are. Just be empathetic when something happens to them. Listen to them when they have problems.

Interesting - more information! I remember that thread I started asking how others see us, where you posted about it. I always want to learn how other people see those with our diagnosis. I have been told many of the same things as you - i.e. cold, rationalizing, spacing out, staring, etc. It never really bothered me, though, probably because I never tried to or expected to come off as normal. I never really knew how I came across until I started asking people.