Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

Aware of boring people?

Page 2 of 3 [ 40 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

ImAnAspie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Oct 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,686
Location: Erra (RA 03 45 12.5 Dec +24 28 02)

18 May 2014, 11:02 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
ImAnAspie wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Quote:
Aware of boring people?


Of course I'm aware of boring people; they're everywhere.


Boom tish!

Sorry, my mistake. I forgot to cater for e v e r y o n e:

For those who couldn't work it out ( :roll: )

Aware of ... "the fact that you may be" ... boring people!

A heading is a heading. It doesn?t need to be a sentence. It?s an indication of the subject matter to follow.


So I see you don't understand jokes...


I do have trouble at times - sorry. I amended my post


_________________
Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.


ImAnAspie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Oct 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,686
Location: Erra (RA 03 45 12.5 Dec +24 28 02)

18 May 2014, 11:04 pm

I looked at it again and realised I was wrong. I'm sorry! :oops:


_________________
Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.


auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,583
Location: the island of defective toy santas

18 May 2014, 11:22 pm

when I perseverate about digital audio restoration it bores people.



NicholasName
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 15 Sep 2013
Age: 35
Gender: Female
Posts: 205

19 May 2014, 7:40 am

I'm unsure of my ability to tell, so I ask people if I'm boring them. As of yet, no one has said yes, but I'm not sure if that's more indicative that I know how much talking is too much for people or that I just hardly talk to anyone. I think it's a mix of both.


_________________
I'm female; my username is a pun on "nickname."


EzraS
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 24 Sep 2013
Gender: Male
Posts: 27,828
Location: Twin Peaks

19 May 2014, 10:18 am

it's always the other way around for me.



League_Girl
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Feb 2010
Gender: Female
Posts: 27,280
Location: Pacific Northwest

19 May 2014, 11:35 am

I have learned the cues of when to tell when you are boring someone. They do the following:

They are looking away
They don't ask any questions about what you are talking about
They don't add anything to the conversation
They are sighing and rolling their eyes
They have their head rested on their hand


Just keep an eye out for this behavior and that is how you can tell they are bored. I don't think it's accurate since I don't always add to the conversation or ask questions nor am I looking at them and I am certainly not bored. I just don't know what to say or have nothing to add or I just don't feel like talking or listening.


_________________
Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed and ASD lv 1.

Daughter: NT, no diagnoses. Possibly OCD. Is very private about herself.


ImAnAspie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Oct 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,686
Location: Erra (RA 03 45 12.5 Dec +24 28 02)

19 May 2014, 1:08 pm

League_Girl wrote:
I have learned the cues of when to tell when you are boring someone. They do the following:

They are looking away
They don't ask any questions about what you are talking about
They don't add anything to the conversation
They are sighing and rolling their eyes
They have their head rested on their hand


Just keep an eye out for this behavior and that is how you can tell they are bored. I don't think it's accurate since I don't always add to the conversation or ask questions nor am I looking at them and I am certainly not bored. I just don't know what to say or have nothing to add or I just don't feel like talking or listening.


Yes, I get the first three. I've got to admit, sometimes, if I sense the conversation is going out, I feel like I've got to throw more and more talk at it in an effort to get it going again and then I become acutely aware that I'm the only one doing the talking. Sometimes, I just keep going. I don't know why. Maybe they'll start talking again but most of the time, I usually just slink away and go off by myself thinking, "Thank God that's over"!


_________________
Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.


ImAnAspie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Oct 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,686
Location: Erra (RA 03 45 12.5 Dec +24 28 02)

19 May 2014, 6:48 pm

Here's something I hadn't thought of before.
I'm so worried about boring the other person, I'm forgetting about my own needs and desires.
Most people bore me and I don't really want to talk with them anyway.

It's not all one sided after all!


_________________
Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.


BeggingTurtle
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Jun 2013
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,374
Location: New England

19 May 2014, 8:39 pm

Boring people are people who drone on or, probably only to me, act like Western culture is the best:
Example:

Boring Teacher wrote:
This is how we do things. This is how we solve things. Do it yourself. Here's the test. Let's start over...


Blabber wrote:
Well when I was at my private school in Germany, we...

____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Clown wrote:
So did you go see that movie last weekend?

BeggingTurtle wrote:
What movie?

Clown wrote:
You know, where that guy and girl get together?

BeggingTurtle wrote:
I don't think I care.

Clown wrote:
You're weird... (slowly moves away awkwardly)

____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
And I wonder how this could all be changed...


_________________
Shedding your shell can be hard.
Diagnosed Level 1 autism, Tourettes + ADHD + OCD age 9, recovering Borderline personality disorder (age 16)


AutumnSylver
Pileated woodpecker
Pileated woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 18 Jul 2013
Age: 48
Gender: Female
Posts: 199

20 May 2014, 3:43 am

I think I'm better at it now, but when I was younger, I would go on and on about certain things and had no idea I was boring people. When I was with a group of people, someone would try to change the subject, and I'd just start back up on the same subject again because I wasn't finished what I was saying, and I'd think "They're being so rude, cutting me off all the time." :lol:



AutumnSylver
Pileated woodpecker
Pileated woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 18 Jul 2013
Age: 48
Gender: Female
Posts: 199

20 May 2014, 3:55 am

League_Girl wrote:
I have learned the cues of when to tell when you are boring someone. They do the following:

They are looking away
They don't ask any questions about what you are talking about
They don't add anything to the conversation
They are sighing and rolling their eyes
They have their head rested on their hand


Just keep an eye out for this behavior and that is how you can tell they are bored. I don't think it's accurate since I don't always add to the conversation or ask questions nor am I looking at them and I am certainly not bored. I just don't know what to say or have nothing to add or I just don't feel like talking or listening.




I agree. It is hard to tell. When someone is talking to me about a subject I don't know anything about, I might find it really interesting, but I won't be saying anything, I might not be asking any questions because they might be explaining it really well, and I might have my head rested on my hand if I'm tired or something. Sometimes people think they're boring me, but they're not.



AnnePande
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 13 Jul 2007
Age: 47
Gender: Female
Posts: 994
Location: Aarhus, Denmark

20 May 2014, 5:44 am

I wonder if NTs are aware that they may be boring us with their small talk? :?



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,583
Location: the island of defective toy santas

20 May 2014, 6:23 pm

ANYBODY talking about sports and religion bores the hell outta me. :roll:



Aprilviolets
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 6 May 2011
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,110

20 May 2014, 6:42 pm

Anyone who talks on and on about football or that they can't find something to watch on television bores me. :roll:



StarsInMyMargarita
Blue Jay
Blue Jay

User avatar

Joined: 10 May 2014
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 76
Location: Iowa

20 May 2014, 11:15 pm

I noticed this exaggerated "wooooow!" tone my mom uses when I'm blabbing about something she's not interested in listening to. I usually shut up and get away from her because my bazillion stairs hike story, during a bazillion stair hike, is more interesting than her random paper trail on unreliable employees story, but I don't say "Yeeeeees, that sounds like a GOOD idea, Mooom!" But I don't know if she knows/cares that she's kind of mean. Maybe I'll just stop talking to her. lol



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,583
Location: the island of defective toy santas

20 May 2014, 11:18 pm

a proper mother is supposed to at least humor her children.