Hugging

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I don't like hugs. They're too much of an invasion of my personal space. Some of my relatives insist on them however, so I'll go with the flow and hug them, just to get it over with.

me too.
I love hugs. But from the right people of course. But I never hug anyone because it feels awkward. They have to hug me instead.
My friend had broken up with boyfriend and said she was very sad and just needed a hug. I wanted to hug her but the situation felt really really awkward so I didn't do it. Plus she was sad and I didn't know how to comfort her. So I told her later I don't hug people and she was okay with that. I lended my ears for lots of feelings listening instead.

I love hugs. I want to hug my siblings, but they always push me away.

I've always been ok with hugs, but especially so the last few years since meeting the huggiest person I know - who has paid me the awesome compliment that I give the best hugs. I've also been complimented on my hugs by others, too, so I must be doing something right.

I've never really felt awkward with hugs so I don't have first hand experience with it.. but I get that it exists; one of my brothers is very averse to hugging anyone and you can tell it makes him feel really awkward and out of place. I feel fortunate not to feel like that at all, because hugging my close friends and god kids etc is a wonderful thing.

The happiest time in my life is when I was a young teenager in church. Because I received a good amount of hugs without having to do a lot of talking. As I suffer from stuttering and anxiety the talking thing has never done much for me. But hugging was really nice.

Now I live somewhere else. I'm in a new church with strangers. I've only hugged two people. Not every week either. Sometimes I feel like trying to hug people but I'm worried they'd be like, "Who is this weird guy pressuring me into a hug?"

But like I said I stutter and have anxiety. So apart from hugging we basically won't end up bonding. This one time a woman was talking to me, probably for a minute or two, and I said practically nothing. No doubt she felt like I couldn't care less. Thing is I do care. I'm just not good at talking. I would have been more than happy to have hugged her. Yet, again, I'm little more than a stranger. It's a Catch-22.

I think it's one of those things you either get or you don't.. although I suppose someone could work on it and improve via practice.

My twin brother is not a hugger. He doesn't like it & always looks uncomfortable/awkward when put in that situation by a family member or someone else.

On the other hand, I'm a-okay with hugging and have been told by others that I give the best hugs. It hasn't hurt that I've been around some extremely huggy people the last few years who usually greet one another with a hug vs. a hello or a handshake.

Sooo, I guess the answer is practice practice practice - as with anything you want to improve.. just keep doing it at every (appropriate) opportunity and eventually it'll come more naturally and you'll feel better about the whole thing.

I wish this was the case with my sister. She hates hugging. My brother would help me with this before, but he doesn't do it anymore because he says it's "too gay now" I hug my sister anyway, but she pushes me away.

Please do not hug me I don't like it! end of story! If I ask for one which would be very rare I don't care if you do or don't

Hugs aren't something I really do, gets really awkward when someone comes in for one from me.

I think if it doesn't come naturally, you just say "sorry I'm not a hugger". I don't know if I'll ever even let anyone get close enough to hug me lol. But at the same time I get a lot of comfort from hug therapy from my closest family. But I usually only like to get hugged from behind. My mom is the only one I really feel comfortable with face to face hugging.

Hugging to me, is the epitome of awkwardness and torment, and one can leave me shuddering and nervous. And it's SO UNNECESSARY!! !! I'd much rather have a friend or relative tell me in plain English, that they care, or they feel that I am close to them emotionally, or whatever a hug is supposed to convey. To me, a hug (or a gesture to request one from me), is a reminder of why I prefer to socialize over the internet

Charles

For me it is a case by case basis. I do not like to be touched a lot as a rule usually, but will hug under the following conditions
-It is one of my parents
-it would be rude not to or make the person sad
-the person is upset and really wants a hug
-I am too tired to explain and just want to get it over with
-the person insists
- some thing really good or really bad happened to one of us

I don't mind hugs, but I wasn't raised with hugs, my parents never hugged me (they loved me but they were not "huggers"). My mother hugged me once, while she was drunk lol (and it was actually kind of awkward). But I remember visiting my ex-husband's best friend, and when his mother saw me she gave me a big "bear" hug (and then started telling me she heard of me a lot etc), and I didn't mind, I thought she was really nice.

People are always hugging me.

My daughter hugs me about 10 times a day and the kids at work are always hugging me too.

Hugging used to terrify me when I was younger, I would go out of my way to avoid any kind of human contact.

Over the years I have learned how to accept it better.

I am still like a plank of wood but I am getting better at it.