Need Some Honest to God Help

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Yes, this is not uncommon at all. Several WP members here have made posts like yours; they get flamed or banned from forums and don't understand why. It's a social communication thing. The exact problem depends on the discussion you are in, but, in my opinion, it probably boils down to one of two things:

1. Person A enters discussion with the primary purpose to discuss specific topic. Everyone else's primary purpose is to socialize; the topic is secondary to them. Person A doesn't know this and shows their interest in the topic (long posts, bringing the subject up over and over again, trying to have in-depth back-and-forth discussion while others just post briefly and don't respond much to each other). Everyone else on the forum sees this as being "too serious" or even aggressive, and therefore not conducive to their goal (socializing). They are not aware that person A simply has a different goal, and assume person A is trolling.

2. Person A makes comments that should be taken literally; everyone else on the forum reads into the comments meaning that is not there. Somehow, the meaning they "infer" is invariably negative. Whatever they think person A is saying takes on a life of its on (especially since they all tend to agree about what person A is saying; they assume their agreement means that they are correct) and, over time, dictates their perception of person A until person A is generally considered to be an as*hole.

Next time, say what you mean instead of "Um Spoilers?" that people can interpret as something other what you mean.
I don't know what you mean when you say "Um Spoilers?", there is no way for me to know that you "wanted to know if it was safe for me to jump into the conversation of the few episodes I have seen".

Nah, just be more conscious of these things while on forums. You can practice an awful lot on this forum right here because everyone's pretty tolerant of AS forum behaviour AND will offer up blunt constructive criticism advice when they notice you slipping. Alternatively, I suppose you could find a forum you're not very interested in to create an account on and just practice being more social on just to see how your interactions go with others and what you can learn from it and how well you can sustain not coming across like an as*hole. Then if you do get banned, who cares?

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I have not read the whole thread but just the OP and immediately I could relate. The kind of thing happens to me All The Time but in real life. I only have ever belonged to two forums including this one and I have done great in both of them. But I tend to have a similar problem with real life situations all the time. sometimes it gets to where I become terrified to open my mouth or say anything at all. I am so relieved that someone mentioned that it is definitely an ASD thing. I thought that I was being an evil person so many times and could not understand why or even what happened.

With or without the question mark, "Um Spoilers" is not enough information for people to infer correctly what is in your head. What is the purpose the "Um"? Does that add something to "Spoilers?" Do any of you know what I mean when I say "Um Carpet?" "Um <Noun>" phrases are usually not clear and easily lead to miscommunication most of the time, unless the context is super clear, or it is direct reply to question.