Avoiding photos because you hate what you look like

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I hate the way I look in photos mostly, although occasionally one will capture me from a flattering angle it's funny because I don't mind how I look in the mirror but photos make me look totally different, I don't get it really

I also hate my voice. I hadn't realised a nasal voice was linked to AS. I've always wished I could sing. I still have a vivid memory of an occasion when I was 8-10 years old in primary school. I wanted to be in the school choir. The headmaster walked past each one of us and if he patted our head we had to go back to class and not be in the choir. Although he didn't say it this meant you were a rubbish singer if you got patted, and I did. It really upset me at the time Susan Boyle has ASD and she's an amazing singer, I wish I could sing like her.

I hate having pictures taken, but it's because I feel like the pictures doesn't look like me. I said that to my mother once, and she said "It looks like you." but I don't think it does. It doesn't look like what I see in the mirror, even if I flip the picture around in photoshop so that it looks like a mirror reflection.

Looking at a picture of myself gives me the same awkward feeling as listening to a recording of my own voice.

I also don't like when someone takes a picture of me, or being in pictures in general, but its not because of the way I actually look (I don't think I'm ugly or anything), but rather because of the way I look in pictures (I usually either look angry, depressed, or stupid, I think I have seen 2 pictures where I look decent), and also because people always insist on making me smile (and all my aunts have that big showing teeth type of smile lol, I have a very discret smile, unless I am actually laughing). I tried to do the big smile once for a picture, I look like a maniac lol. I almost always had long hair, and there is family pictures where I intentionally look down so my hair is in front of my face and you can't even see my face lol.

I consider myself to be fairly attractive, but I am not very photogenic, so I feel more self-conscious looking at a photo of me. I can't seem to pose properly. I always look much taller and lanky in photos, and my neck seems to look stooped and my head looks really small, and I'm pulling some sort of weird face, even though I try to relax and casually display a gentle smile, I still can't seem to get it right. It is rare that I will get a descent picture of myself. I've got one photo of me at somebody's wedding, and my face looked like a wooden doll. It literally looked wooden in the picture, with no colour or shades of the light or anything. You could barely see where my nose was because there didn't seem to be any shadows or anything on my face, if you know what I mean. It looked rather gross, and I feel so ashamed of that picture.

However, in 95% of pictures taken of me where I am not posing or expecting it, I look perfectly normal and attractive.

It ain't an ASD thing.

I just think no one can take a photo of me as well as I can. I have been surprised in the past though.

I'd rather just take my own damn picture.

I basically tell people who don't want their picture taken that they never have to see it and if they really don't like it then I won't put it up anywhere public.

I can only stand looking at myself when I absolutely have to. This is one the reasons why I get so many cuts when shaving.

My voice is even worse. I sound like a speech synthesizer from 80s. Editing a recording of my voice is a nightmare.

I HATE my own photos. Absolutely hate them. When I look in a mirror I look fine, I look like me. When I take a photo, I see the real flipped image of what others see, and it's awful. I look like an ugly freak. Never liked my photos. I don't have many.

I hate photos of myself and avoid being photographed whenever possible.

You when you see drawings of The Fantastic Four and there is The Thing looming at the back, five times the size of everyone else? That's how I always look in group photos

I hate looking in mirrors (I wet shave by touch), hate having photo ID cards and especially when the camera on my phone switches around by accident and I am confronted by my own huge dead face onscreen.

I have for the most part always disliked photos of myself. The only ones I like are of me doing something but with my features indistinct or are the kind where I don't actually look like myself to myself (like where the camera catches me at an odd angle, or in an unusual expression, or once when my jaw was swollen from a oral surgery ). And I know it goes way back, as I remember disliking my own school pics even in elementary school. I wished I looked like someone else. I did over time come to accept myself for myself, but that dislike of accurate photos persists.

I have always struggled with an uncomfortable self-consciousness and thought the two were related somehow.

I always find some way to make myself invisible, when photos are to be taken. When I see myself on photo, it is physically unpleasant. I once ran home and puked after having had a passport photo taken.

I don't mind seeing myself in a mirror when I'm alone in my bedroom or bathroom, I don't look too bad then. But I hate seeing myself in photos, I think I look quite different then. Then I am seeing myself as the outside world sees me, and that really hurts. In photos I think I just look weird and totally out of place in the world. That is even more the case if it is me in a group photo with other people, but a picture of me on my own is bad enough.
And I too hate my voice and am very self-conscious about it. The first time I dared to listen to a recording of my voice I was horrified at how I sound.