how many of you guys are under an adult guardianship?

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No guardianship. I do live with my parents, but I retain the legal right to make decisions for myself, such as whether to accept or refuse medical treatments. Though even when I was under 18, my parents always consulted me once I was old enough to understand what they were talking about.

Now that I actually know that a "guardianship" is a legally-binding agreement, I can most definitely say that I'm not living under one. Though I may live with a friend's family, legally speaking I'm an independent adult.

Legally speaking, I am not under guardianship, however, I still live with my mother, who cooks, cleans and does the laundry. I can drive and am going to school, but don't have a job (trying to find one though). I do not know enough about the world to live independently yet; don't know how to pay bills, get car or home assistance when needed, get myself to medical appointments, or even cook anything beyond microwave stuff, spaghetti and hot dogs. I think I'm still waiting for my mental, social and emotional maturity level to catch up with my chronological age.

All that stuff is easy to learn, really.

If you could drive, that's a big step. It's hardest to learn how to drive out of all the other things you mentioned.

These days, most people pay bills online. You just have to know how to balance your bank account. You're an intelligent guy: you could easily get yourself to medical appointments--just go to Mapquest or whatever, and follow the directions. Or get a talking GPS device (they could cost under $100), and place it in your car. Your mother (or father) could teach you how to cook, fold clothes, clean, etc.

Like I said, the fact that you drive at all is a big step towards independence.

I know I'm going to have to learn to drive eventually, but I'm extremely apprehensive about it, and for a long time I had a deep seated fear of driving. Right now, I'm not so anxious about the idea of driving, and if I really wanted to I could probably take my learners, though that involves studying, and I have an extremely hard time studying things I have almost no interest in. I've tried reading the learner's handbook before, and I almost always quit reading before the end of the first chapter. I have no idea how I'm supposed to memorize that entire damn book so that I can do the exam and pass it. Fortunately, I'm at the point where most of my friends are 18 or older, so I can have one of them sit in the passenger's seat while I drive. I actually have one friend in particular who loves vintage cars, and he's a pretty easy-going guy, albeit somewhat hard to get a hold of.

Wow, I think I just thought of a possible solution to my learner's problem. I'll make hanging out with this guy a goal.

I said no. But I do not know. Mum is in charge. I am soon moving. I will live in a flat. that is attached to where a person will be. who can help. I will get also 30 hours a week. from a support worker. Mum will be in charge then also I think. she does decisions about support. but I think May be it is still no?

No, but I am not living on my own or semi-independently, am on government disability...in-between MF and HFA.

Nope.

Moved out of home at 18, currently live alone. I have shared accommodation with friends and SO's in the past, but the calibre of housemate required for me is unrealistically high. Not only do they have to be practically angelic and quiet, they have to be tolerant of my strangeness and habits.

Although I do struggle I think my life would actually be more stressful if I was being assisted in some way.

My Aspie uncle however does need assistance. He now lives in an 'Assisted Living' scheme (after a lot of work, he was only diagnosed at 58 years of age) surrounded by retirees and other vulnerable adults, I supplement his care with regular visits to make sure he at least eating reasonably healthy and not forgetting his diabetes medication. He has been assisted in some way his entire adult life, usually by family and I genuinely think he would be at least homeless if not dead if left to his own devices.

Edited for stupid emoticons. Must remember to not follow numbers with brackets

to marybird and sweetleaf,
obviously we cant officialy define what LF and HF are because theyre just widely used descriptions rather than medical labels but as far as personaly know LF and HF autism always were always seperated by an IQ of seventy,with either being on one side of it or the other,the IQ/ LF or HF mental capacity is what makes our autism present the way it does.
here are some links explaining it;
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High-functioning_autism
http://autismcrisis.blogspot.co.uk/2010 ... oning.html

http://www.jneurodevdisorders.com/content/5/1/14
^a little into the review section;

I am... though I don't like it...

My mom was pretty hellbent on getting it over me for a while. I knew what I would be in for if she did so I said no way until she gave up. I'm way more high functioning than my mom has ever given me credit for...and if it wasn't for her sheltering me so much as a teenager, I'd be even more high functioning. No way am I going to continue to let her micro manage my life anymore.

I'm living with my parents and brother. I sort of need to because I have a lot of trouble taking care of myself, let alone the house. My mom often describes me as being at the "lower end of high-functioning". My parents don't mind this arrangement; in fact, my mom prefers me to live with them because, as she herself admits, she is very overprotective of me and "[doesn't] care what anybody else thinks about it".

After my parents die, my eldest sister and her husband are going to take me in. They were very adamant that I would not live in a group home or with any other family members besides them.

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