"Stop Doing That; You Look Ridiculous"

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I have a friend who gets on to me right away if I'm not wearing weather-appropriate clothes. But I do think she overreacts too much because I only sometimes wear a thin scarf if it's one of those days where the weather can't make up it's mind and I'm unsure if I'm going to be hot or cold (like when it cools down as soon as the sun goes in or something). I do hate being cold, I find it uncomfortable and makes me irritable. She says things like ''I'll take your scarf off if I were you when we get into the town, otherwise people will stare''. Well, people stare at me ANYWAY, whatever I'm wearing. The way I see it, whatever you wear there will always be someone who doesn't like it and will stare, even if you know you look presentable. Obviously I don't go out wearing things what make me stand out, but small minor things are nobody's business.
Also my friend starts panicking if the rain has eased into a light drizzle and we still have our umbrellas up. She says that people will think we are ''nutters'' if we're seen with umbrellas up when the rain is starting to stop. I don't know where she dragged that from because if it's one of those days where the rain goes light and heavy and stops for a few minutes but leaves the air feeling damp and cold, then some people are bound to be holding an umbrella up even if it has stopped for a few minutes. Besides, if shows that you care about your hair, if you're female.

So you used the poor creature for a tissue? Disgusting. How do you think the lamb felt? Maybe just as overwhelmed as you? How about we wrench you from your natural habitat, tie you up somewhere in a crowded, noisy place, and let stranger after stranger come grab at you and dump their emotional problems on you? Or bawl into your hair?

You're not the only one. I don't understand how person after person on WP makes posts about how they are mistreated, expected to act unnaturally, and made to feel uncomfortable, then turn around and do the same to their fellow animals.

I have had this in the past to, even now as a teenager I sometimes get told to grow upin areas but adults but with my peers they sometimes tell me to stop being such an old sod. This has not happend in quite a while but I have been in simular situations even as a child when I was trying to do more adult things and being told I can't because children don't do that.

Anyway thanks for sharing, the lamb story was wonderful! I think your mum was really harsh though but at least you felt good.

Your mother sounds as unsupportive of your difficulties as she could possibly be. And forbiding you to do something that would help you (going into the petting zoo)? That's unacceptable. It sounds like you need to spend a lot less time with your mother. Life is too short to spend it with toxic people who constantly berate you.

I think 'bird places" are known as "aviaries." This comes from the Latin for "bird." Their taxonomic class is "Aves."

You are quite right. We must strike a balance, compromise with the NT world.

I also believe, as long as one isn't hurting anyone, that any behavior, including stimming (if explained) should be acceptable.

Hmm, and they say it's us who are lacking empathy and Theory of Mind and are thinking rigidly?!

I wonder if the same people would say something similar to blind people with sticks and dogs, people in wheelchairs, with hearing aid or just plain glasses?? Or would they still go: "stop using that, it looks ridiculous"?!

I hate it when people bring age into things, because it always feels like a criticism to me (may not be a criticism to others but it is for me). I try not to view nearly everything through the ''age-appropriate'' lenses, unless it's really significant. I especially hate it when people criticise me and bring my age into it when the situation hasn't really got anything to do with age.

Like when I was 16 or 17 my friend kept getting on to me about not wearing make-up. I said I'm not that bothered about make-up, and that if I did wear it on my eyes I would feel like I can't touch my eyes. Then my friend started moaning ''but you're not a small child...'' and I didn't even know what that had to do with touching my face. Maybe if I had a habit of putting my hands down my underwear in public then I might expect people trying to tell me that I should know not to do that, but touching the face is not childish.

Also when I was 14 my uncle told me to ''grow up'' because I screamed at a spider. I was expected to be grown up when I was a young teenager, even though I wasn't the oldest out of my cousins or siblings. I just felt like a double-standard to me.

I remember once when I was 15 me and my cousin was messing about with the phone in the office, and the head called our parents, and when I got home my mum lectured that ''I am not 5 any more, I can do better than that'' and all of that. Yes I knew she had a point. But when my other cousin (who was also a teenager) was reported for messing about with her friends with an elevator, putting something in the elevator and watching it go up and down or something and all pointing and laughing at it, my mum and her mum just rolled their eyes but grinned and said ''that's kids for you!''