I Don't Understand Why People Wear Make-Up.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:01 pm

I'm a horrible BF, having refused to kiss my SO in the past until they clean the garishly coloured whale blubber off their mush.

This might explain why I'm not married

There are plenty of guys who wear make-up these days too, especially where I live. I don't understand them, either.

Maybe it's some kind of camouflage? It can't be based on some propensity for stupid mating rituals, or there would be more emphasis on being less repulsive.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:05 pm

Mavennica wrote:

I'm a woman, and I don't understand make-up at all. I mean, I know how to put it on (most every girl has that beaten into her head, I think), but I don't understand why women wear it. It doesn't change your face, it simply covers what's there (I believe the NT code phrase is "accentuates"). Why would you wear it on a date? You want to show who you are, not how much money you can slather on your face. If you want to attract a partner, why not simply show who you are all the time? Perhaps it's just me. I'm queasy at the thought of dating someone so shallow they are only attracted to me if I bow to advertising pressure and spend hundreds of dollars on chemicals to temporarily change how my face looks.

I just don't get it.

BTW, I am happily married, and my husband doesn't understand the make-up phenomenon either.

I must clone you.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:08 pm

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I'm a horrible BF, having refused to kiss my SO in the past until they clean the garishly coloured whale blubber off their mush.

Hahahaha, did you ever tell the person that reason? What was their reaction to that?

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02 Jul 2014, 6:09 pm

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and I don't care about mopping my floor because it never looks clean afterwards anyway and I even have dried spots of cat spit-up in some places.

I wouldn't be able to live happily at all in a place where the floors are not mopped/swept, more so swept, because I can always feel the crumbs on the bottom of my feet, and I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate feeling crumbs stuck to my feet as well as wet grass.

I hate feeling crumbs too. And I hate dirty floors. That would get on me big time. I actually need to vacuum in the bedroom where the ac let some dirt in.

I am so glad my husband is not into me wearing makeup and jewelry or fancy clothes either. He loves me to be just me. I don't even have to bother combing my hair if I don't feel like it. I do shower and brush my teeth though. He really appreciates that. :p

I am a lip balm junkie though. I can't go without it. I love the all natural ones like Badger brand or Doctor Bronner's.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:10 pm

Yeah I've always wondered how a man can stand to kiss a woman who is wearing lipstick or any kind of makeup, just seems gross to me.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:14 pm

Make up isn't about "accentuating" anything. Yes it does change the way you look a bit, but wearing makeup properly is like going to the gym and huffing and puffing a lot or playing sports: they are gendered activities that define your gender and demonstrate participation in society's (often) completely arbitrary rules.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:20 pm

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Yeah, the main wonder about it really comes down to how it got started, I think. It's continued because of all kinds of crazy reasons, or the few not-so-crazy reasons.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:28 pm

dianthus wrote:

Yeah I've always wondered how a man can stand to kiss a woman who is wearing lipstick or any kind of makeup, just seems gross to me.

Hm, I thought I responded to this before, but I must've X'd out before submitting... I shall now type a shorter version of what I said.

A lot of people probably don't know about at all / think about the ingredients in lipstick, so many probably just ignore that fact when kissing a person wearing lipstick. I learned that some people create lipstick / lip coloring at home with melted crayons and coconut oil. As long as you don't get sick and die from it, many people probably recognize it similar to the way one would recognize hand lotion.

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02 Jul 2014, 6:29 pm

serenaserenaserena wrote:

Pobbles wrote:

I'm a horrible BF, having refused to kiss my SO in the past until they clean the garishly coloured whale blubber off their mush.

Hahahaha, did you ever tell the person that reason? What was their reaction to that?

Which time? :lol:

There have been a number of different reactions to that, and yes, I'm quite happy to explain why even if there is a high probability of a strop. I'm even happier to explain if the strop is already happening :lol:

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02 Jul 2014, 6:31 pm

Mavennica wrote:

I wish that I were 38 again...before my face started turning into a prune...covered with age spots, sun damage and wrinkles everywhere...

Before I started to develop dark circles under my eyes and have them sink back inside my skull rimmed by pink lids..

Before my lips became thin and very pale and started peeling often...

I wonder how I can make myself look less ugly? Is there any way I can?

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02 Jul 2014, 6:31 pm

Pobbles wrote:

serenaserenaserena wrote:

Pobbles wrote:

I'm a horrible BF, having refused to kiss my SO in the past until they clean the garishly coloured whale blubber off their mush.

Hahahaha, did you ever tell the person that reason? What was their reaction to that?

Which time? :lol:

Were they mad at you? Did any of them remove their makeup for you?

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02 Jul 2014, 6:57 pm

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How mad they were (note the past tense, lol) depended on the situation. If it came up via "why won't you kiss me in public?" I can politely explain that they don't leave the house without make-up, and that make-up looks and feels unnatural to me. "Would you kiss me if I was wearing lipstick and you had to wipe marks off your clothes every time?" is perfectly fair I think, the answer is always 'no'. (thankfully)

Nobody has broke up with me regarding this, and SO's have been remarkably compliant once I've explained that they're beautiful without make-up.

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02 Jul 2014, 7:53 pm

I like wearing makeup sometimes, I just think it's fun to dress up occasionally. Then again, I also like wearing Halloween makeup.

I don't always wear makeup though, just occasionally, usually if I'm going out. Or if I have a huge pimple, haha.

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02 Jul 2014, 7:57 pm

I tried mascara, which looks nice but I kept having to remind myself not to rub my eyes, so its too annoying to really carry on with.

As with other makeup, the choice of choosing different products is too stressful, I know nothing about what looks good and have not got the skills to apply them to my face.

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02 Jul 2014, 8:12 pm

i don't understand it ether. i think it actually makes people look uglier. "eyeshadow" looks like the person using it got beaten up.

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02 Jul 2014, 8:14 pm

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The times that I wore mascara, it was waterproof, so it kinda hardens on your eyelashes, so it doesn't matter if you rub your eyes or not- it doesn't come off like that.

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