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CockneyRebel
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06 Jul 2014, 6:20 pm

People with disabilities are seen as the weakest link. Many of us aren't seen as being able to do much, even by our own immediate families.


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06 Jul 2014, 7:40 pm

I think a lot of people have a hard time accepting the fact that they don't match their own idea of perfect. I think a lot of people flaunt their strengths and mask their weaknesses and never simply accept themselves for who they are.

I think there is a lot of pressure to be the best and a large number of people develop complicated feelings around their own perceived failings.

I think looking down on people with disabilities is a reflection of insecurity. It is either a persons frustration about his/her own perceived failings or putting someone else down to feel better about his/her own abilities.

It really doesn't make sense. There is really no ideal human. Any perceived ideal human is something we've made up. It's a "silly" game that people seem to play and are often unaware of which has awful consequences.



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06 Jul 2014, 11:40 pm

nerdymama wrote:
I think a lot of people have a hard time accepting the fact that they don't match their own idea of perfect. I think a lot of people flaunt their strengths and mask their weaknesses and never simply accept themselves for who they are.

I think there is a lot of pressure to be the best and a large number of people develop complicated feelings around their own perceived failings.

I think looking down on people with disabilities is a reflection of insecurity. It is either a persons frustration about his/her own perceived failings or putting someone else down to feel better about his/her own abilities.

It really doesn't make sense. There is really no ideal human. Any perceived ideal human is something we've made up. It's a "silly" game that people seem to play and are often unaware of which has awful consequences.


Problem with that is there are plenty of people who aren't insecure, who would still put down disabled people.


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07 Jul 2014, 3:02 am

All of the above, it depends on the person. There are just some people who are mean, bad sadistic at their very core, but most aren't. I do think a lot of it fear of that association with us will bring out a part of themselves they think is inside them. Since that is it is not logical a lot of it is insecurity. By being mean they are showing there friends and trying to convince themselves their inner fears are BS. For parents of the disabled because of genetics that this is an innate part of them is harder to deny or to conceal from the world. When you add legitimate fear that their child they love will have a rough life and not the life of what is expected, explains the fact that many parental organizations and organizations where parents are clients have become our most fanatical opponents and enemies (enemy is a strong word but not an incorrect one in my view).


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