Do you notice when you don't get along with others?

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Now, that I cometo think of it: I pissed off most of my family without ever understanding why. Neither did they.
Not nice to think about.

I am aware if I like or dislike a person.
Unless it is blatant I am unsure if they do or do not like me.

Yep! Me too. That is one aspect of the difficulty of reading others. My, it takes a long time to identify these things, - probably because of that same difficulty.

I can notice if I don't get along with someone; how long it takes to notice depends on how subtly the other person expresses their discontent. Sometimes, I notice a clash between me and another person right away. They're the ones who insult me and make rude comments. On other occasions, I don't detect their disdain until much later, when their heightened frustration makes it more obvious. Yet in some cases, I would've never been aware of any conflict had someone else not informed me. It's the largest problem I've faced from not being able to read non-verbal cues.

To answer your second question, yes, it's possible to become more self-aware from experience. Sometimes, the other person's frustrations would make clear to me what I had been doing wrong all along. They'd complain that I kept bothering them with my obsessive interest. From there, I learned that people don't want to hear you drone on about your obsession. I'd also figure some out through observation, such as that when someone is bored, they'll give short answers. In other cases, I learned through applying rules and non-verbal signs I learned later to my experiences (?Oh, so that's why she was angry when I didn't say hello!?). I know that there will still be people I won't get along with, but I hope I'll be able to notice a clash before irritating someone for a while.

Usually, I've been able to get that "sixth sense" of sorts in a timely manner. Better yet, I've learned to be proactive i.e., to avoid questionable situations in the first-place!

i always know when i hate someone, i am never fake and never pretend to like someone, i just simply dont know how to do it. however i cant tell when someone doesnt like me, i usually find out from a third person, saying that the person hates me, and im almost always caught off gaurd.

Yes I do notice when I am not liked right from the start.

As years go by, we eventually learn the signs... even though it is hard to figure out precisely why "we" don´t get along. Not everyone is inclined to discuss matters.