Are you happy acting as NT?

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Honestly.....it depends on the NT. NT's run the gamut, as well as Spectrumites.

Whatever it takes to improve one's quality of life - To improve one's ability to independently support one's self and control their own destiny. To improve one's chances of going to all the places one has always dreamed of going, doing all the things one has always dreamed of doing, accomplishing all the goals one has always wanted to accomplish. If one can do this without acquiring any NT traits - then go for it. But for me making some adjustments has improved my quality of life and helped me accomplish some goals and dreams and that has certainly made me happier.

It's a cost/benefits equation, sometimes the lesser of two evils.
If it helps grease the wheels at work, ok I'll do it.
If it helps the moment be peaceful with reasonable consequences, ok I'll do it.

I break out of the act at home and be myself - that's when I'm happy/content. The rest is just paying the piper.

Hear, hear----I second "paying the piper"! !

I'm not happy acting as an NT, because I am not an NT.

I would be miserable if the bulk of my life was 'NT emulation by an AS.'

My entire goal in life is to find the minimum amount of NT acting I have to do to get by.

Fortunately I have a job where I'm expected to be eccentric. My patients appreciate my interest in their condition and attention to detail although I have to force eye contact and act super friendly. My coworkers know I'm eccentric but are tolerant of and even endeared to my habits, particularly the fact that I have no filter in the doc's office. I don't pretend to be NT just to have friends outside of work so I don't really have any, but now I'm trying to be friendlier to get into playgroups for my son who also had ASD

No. Socialising and not stimming and being with other people exhausts me both mentally and physically.

I don't really find it's possible to mark friends by pretending, and I'm not sure how much this is pretending. It's just, people were eating me alive for being me, so I wouldn't say I'm happy acting, but I have to be very scripted in dealing with others about my children, and the script is super positive, super pleasant, keep my intensity down as far as I can as much as I remember to. I do feel like I am acting a lot, and that is difficult. The education advocates recognized I didn't know how to advocate effectively and taught me to understand how to advocate without setting myself up for extra assaults by others. In the process, and there were other factors, I've lost something of myself trying to look the "right " way. I haven't leaned to turn the acting on and off, though. And people maybe don't trust the act, as I know I had friends before I started acting this way and now, I don't.

In the end though I think I'd do it again, I don't want to be helpless for my kids.

But the other moms used to let me in, now.......no

Preschool age was easier though, a bit more friendliness