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By pointing out that your post would have been better placed in The Haven, I was giving you the opportunity to "vent" in an area of the site frequented by people with problems similar to your own.

Sure, you can get advice from people by posting in ~any~ area of WP, as it is a very supportive community . However, why not take advantage of those areas of the site that are ~designed~ to deal with specific problems? It is in ~your~ best interests, after all.

Drop the attitude, Deccajay, and you will gain more sympathy from those around you

Brendan

no real point of that I am done here. after a few things are wraped up I am doen, so i have no need to suck up to people.

Relationships which are too insular can become problematic - it's always worth having a few good friends for a "second opinion" no matter how wonderful your partner is. Living in each other's pockets does little for your sense of perspective, otherwise.

Your final sentence is the key to all of this. How much do you really need to find some new friends? Is it worth the hassle? For hobbies and interests where there are clearly defined groups (clubs, societies, forums) it shouldn't be too hard to find the right sort of people. Approach it quite light-heartedly and assume a realistic success rate (say, oooh, 1 in 3) and I reckon you'll be fine. Making 'true' friends who will talk openly about anything and everything is naturally much harder, as they don't all sit in one clearly defined group. I have no idea how one would go about finding such people, as it seems to happen by chance. Nonetheless you do have to be out there meeting people in order to stumble across the two or three who might one day be really close friends. Not necessarily in clubs and bars (more likely to attract the wrong kind of attention there) - could be down the gym, in the library, at work, in the supermarket, walking the dog....

If you can't be bothered with the whole process then that's fine, but it's a choice you're making and therefore not something you can really moan about!

I WASNT FRIGGEN MOANIGN ABOUT IT..............obiously no one is really getint the tinies bit of what I am saying. what ever.

Maybe if you calmed down and stopped mouthing off and instead explained explicitly what is upsetting you so much, people might understand! Instead you are jumping off on people all over the place, I can see that. It does not help, I should know. I have done it myself often enough when upset and feeling unwanted etc.

People are not mind readers.

Endless tales of woe seem to be all that girl you've described is good for, so unless you want to listen to her tales of woe, drop her and move on.

General words of wisdom:

1) Family is overrated.
2) Whiners are overrated.
3) Be very selective about whom you choose to value the opinions of.
4) If there's nothing in it for you, you have more productive ways to spend your time.