"You'll never get a job".

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My dad told me I would never be able to finish my studies because I would not be able to deal with stressful moments (When I'm even minorly stressed I have mental breakdowns where I find it almost impossible to carry on what I'm supposed to be doing).

My mum told me I would never be able to hold a job for exactly the same reason.

I now have a degree and am in full time work.

It may seem like he said something he shouldn't, but would you rather he encourage you to pursue your dreams...blind to the fact that you have a condition that might make attaining any of them impossible?

Raising someone on the spectrum is a tough balancing act. Just like raising any child.

You want to encourage them to dream, but you also want them grounded in reality so they don't have unrealistic expectations of life.

Confidence comes from building on well-earned successes. If you encourage a kid to pursue "pie in the sky" ambitions, each failure will rob them of confidence. You got to get them pumped up on more realistic accomplished goals first.

In my opinion the worst thing a person can do is never reach their potential. And if you never follow your dreams and try your best to achieve your dreams, how are you ever going to reach your potential?I would prefer failure and heartbreak to giving up at the first obstacle. People everywhere will tell you you're not good enough. Some people actually enjoy it when you fail. I love proving people wrong.

I want to put a poster on the wall for my husband, and you should have one, too: "Just because someone SAYS something does not make it true." He is constantly baffled by "but this person said this and this person said this, how can they both be true?" Because they're not.

Now, it MIGHT be true that you're not in the right field (and I know NOTHING about you, so I can't judge that!). My husband studied teaching and then computer programming. Those were two of the worst fields he could have got into. Now he saws logs at a lumber mill and *loves* it, just him and his thoughts. His mother says it's a waste of his intelligence, but he was heading for a nervous breakdown. He couldn't handle the social environment of jobs that were "suited" to him even though he was more than intelligent enough for the work.

And yes, after he failed at both teaching and computer programming, he had people tell him that he'd never work because he was "too weird". He's not doing the work they expected him to do, but he's working, and happy.

Yes I should do, as far as reasonably possible, what makes me happy.

My support worker said there is an option to get a job in the NAS (the autism charity that she supports me from).