question about time passing and bonding

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get it completely. This is exactly how I am.

But most others are not. I often wonder if it is because my brain mis-stated or misunderstood the level of the relationship anyway. Like in my mind we were tight friends but in their mind I was just an acquaintance....

Seeing all the responses, it makes me wonder if that is actually an Aspie thing. I believe that when Aspies do bond with people it is a very deep and loyal bond and that it can be for life. I also think that we perceive the passage of time differently and are not affected by it as others are.

I am the same, but i didn't realize it was an aspergic thing ~ i just thought certain people (from way back when) must have not liked me as much as i liked them ...which is what made me feel hurt.
There are a couple of people tho who always act like our last meeting was just yesterday, like nothing happened during our time apart, and thankfully assume i still care about them (regardless of how long it's really been), but i think that's why i get confused ~ if they can do it (it's not just a me thing) then why can't other people?
I've lost at least one friend coz so much time passed (without me noticing ...cringe) that they figured i didn't care about them [anymore]; friendship is such a tricky thing!
And now i have to wonder if the 'always caring' people are aspergic too ...which actually might be nice ...i'll have to ask them!

I agree with this.
I am extremely good at the perception of time passing, but it is more of a sub-process or sub-routine, and is not applied universally to other thought processes.

To me, logical deduction, which I use in my various thought processes independently, should be completely divorced from the passage of time.
In other words your position on a time-line should not negate a logical process.

This must be something I figured out long ago as a child.

I don't know about this in the longer term, because I'm not quite two decades old. But I can randomly pick up a conversation I had a few months/days/weeks back and carry it on like it was happening now and the other person has no idea what I'm speaking about. And I have friends from school, ( I only finished last year), and act like I don't even exist, I met up with 2 people from school this summer once, but I can just carry on like we saw each other yesterday but they don't and I find that strange.

I do this too.
It's the partitioning of subroutines, - thinking sections in the brain.
Anyone who codes should recognize this topology of flow.
If I'm interrupted on a subject I can return the exact spot at almost any time interval.
This is done consciously, and perhaps it's something that subconscious thought just does not do.

I envy you ~ if i'm interrupted my focus gets diverted to the task of understanding what the other person is saying, and i then have no idea how far along i was with my part of the discussion ...until someone says or does something that reminds me of the particular point i was making, then it might all come back clear as day. Otherwise it'll take (eg) hearing something someone says in a dvd to remind me ...x amount of days later!