Were you raised as an NT?

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I was raised as an NT for 46 years... lol. I have always thought I was normal and struggled with why I couldn't do things others could do all my life. When I told people I could do something I was always told just push forward and do it. Worse advice I could have ever received over and over and over. I now know that I am not normal, and that there are certain things I can't do, almost all entirely social.

In the same way I was raised as a heterosexual - Being born in 1954 - I grew up in a world that couldn't imagine there was anything else.

Since my aspie was just born (diagnosed) in September of this year that'd be a yes. Now I just need to learn how to raise the little bugger the right way!

What does it mean to be raised as an NT? What would it be like to be raised as an aspie? Serious questions, not being snarky.

Since I was (thankfully!) not diagnosed as a child, I guess by default I was raised as an NT.

I'd still very much like to hear more about what the differences would be.

Yeah pretty much this. But there's really only one thing I wish they'd done differently. I don't really like thinking about who I might be today if I was raised "as an aspie".

I was diagnose at 22, so I was kind of raised has an NT, because my parents somehow always knew I was different from everyone else, so did my entire family and they took that a little bit in consideration.

I was raised as a nerd I think. My parents didn't pay a lot of attention to me most of the time. I was just talking to my mom and she didn't know food I liked and disliked when I was living with her. It's probably for the best. Too much attention from them would probably have ruined my self-worth.

I assume raised as NT would mean expecting to be like the other kids and your issues were trivialized and you were punished for things you couldn't help and it was assumed you were lazy or stupid or being a brat, wanting things your way, having tantrums, being a wuss (sensory issues), being a big baby, had annoying habits (stimming).


Being raised as aspie would mean you had understanding and your parents tried to help you and support you and teach you and didn't punish you for things you couldn't help and if you were stimming, they would try and calm you down than ordering you to stop and would also phrase things better if you misunderstood than assuming you were being smart.

Yes and no. My parents couldn´t help noticing, that I was somewhat atypical, so they tried to acommodate it, but they actually didn´t know how to. At school I was treated like an NT and at home they tried to correct my "weaknesses". Our homelife and values were considered different, but then, my mom wasn´t aware, that she was an asperger with borderline. That made her very unpredictable. So, at school, I was supposed to live up to NT standards and at home, I was somewhat confused. I don´t know what to call that mixture.

I was. It was not terrible, because i was raised with a mother and a grandmother that are so kind and comprehensive with all my traits.

I was diagnosed autistic at 2.5 years old. But I've been raised alongside my cousin who's only four months older than me, and they try to raise me as equally as possible to the way he is raised, while still acknowledging my special needs.

Yeah, I would say that I was. I think that my parents had no idea what the signs of AS were, so they just thought I was quiet (extremely simplified). My parents were more concerned about getting drunk and partying, so us kids weren't really a priority. I think that it would be pretty obvious today, if I had been born 20 years later. Anyway, I think they raised me the way they thought that kids should be raised-- there was no differentiation. That doesn't mean that my 3 siblings and I aren't completely different.

Frankly (while not acting on it!! !! !! !! !!), I would really feel like hurting the people who "raised" you.

My parents know I'm not NT but still treat me like one they say it helps make you stronger and independant so that you'd survive the outside world if you ever had to face it. I think they're right from my experience.

Yes and no. What I mean is like... my parents realized something was wrong. I wasn't talking at the proper age, I wasn't able to socialize and also was very aggressive in Kindergarten or Preschool (I eventually grew out of this as I got older and got used to my peers), I also had more interest in rocks and playing alone. My parents also said that I had very meltdowns as a child. See, my parents pushed and pushed and pushed because they weren't satisfied with just me having ADHD and a learning disability. I knew something was wrong with me as well, but I didn't know what.

I had no clue as to why I couldn't play with my peers. I just couldn't do it, so I put all my attention in collecting rocks and withdrawing from everyone. So, I guess I can say maybe I was and maybe I wasn't because of the testing I had to go through until I was between nine and twelve or whatever. I know my social skills have improved more over time because I can now socialize a lot better. The only problem is how random I am at talking to people. I will often start talking nonstop to people at Verizon for example, or someone in the grocery store. I still have those oddities with how socialize, but I AM socializing more. I think it's a pretty big improvement for me compared to my younger years and stuff.

No because I wad diagnosed with dyslexia & ADHD sense kindergarten & I had lots of behavioral issues that caused me to stand out.