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Sylvastor
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18 Nov 2014, 7:52 pm

Amity wrote:
No I don?t like a surprise, even nice ones like an unexpected gift, opening it in front of the giver is not pleasant; I?m almost guaranteed to fail the expected reaction. Surprise party/trip/outing... no, I need advanced notice.

Oh, I feel like I have to reply to this as I recognize this scenario.
I do agree, the social pressure in fullfilling the expectations of the giver is truly not a nice one.

My family got used to my lack of obvious reactions like acting happy, so they know that if I thank them and say that it's a nice gift and/or something I could have needed, it's a honest reply. Maybe you should mention this to your closest people next time you get a gift? This can take a way a lot of the uncomfortable feelings once you get treated with understanding in that regard.


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18 Nov 2014, 8:02 pm

I like to know what's going on. I'm the type of Aspie who likes to stay on top of things & have em planned.


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