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15 Dec 2014, 1:26 pm

I repeat myself too. I think it's because that's the way I think.

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15 Dec 2014, 1:55 pm

Yes, I'm guilty of repeating myself quite frequently.

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15 Dec 2014, 1:56 pm

Yes, I'm guilty of repeating myself quite frequently.

(Sorry, I couldn't resist.)

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15 Dec 2014, 8:17 pm

VegetableMan wrote:

Yes, I'm guilty of repeating myself quite frequently.

(Sorry, I couldn't resist.)

Ha ha, ya know, I was thinking of doing that too! But ya beat me to it :lol:

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15 Dec 2014, 9:23 pm

I repeat myself sometimes with my parents because they are unresponsive like they didn't hear me & carry on with a conversation with themselves & they sometimes do ignore me or tune me out & accuse me of not telling them things. But sometimes when I repeat myself my mom snaps at me about how she heard me the 1st time. It's like a random guessing game as to weather or not they heard me.

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15 Dec 2014, 9:39 pm

mrspotatohead wrote:

I'm not sure I know how not to since I don't even notice myself doing it until someone accuses me of it after the fact...

Ditto

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15 Dec 2014, 10:09 pm

Yes, I repeat myself frequently, often in the same words.
I wonder if it causes others to have more deja vu in relation to me.

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15 Dec 2014, 10:30 pm

mrspotatohead wrote:

When I am trying to communicate with others, I tend to repeat myself -- but not usually the exact same phrase. If I feel like I may not have expressed something adequately or am having trouble expressing what is supposed to be important, whatever I am saying comes out through several iterations. Apparently, doing so makes people think that I am talking down to them when I am really just trying to make sure I have communicated my point properly. I wish I just knew how to say things the right way the first time. Maybe I care too much about getting my exact point across -- it seems like most people don't care if others really understand them. I do it the most when people aren't clear about whether they've heard and understood me -- I guess I could be missing some cue that others pick up on that tells them whether their point was received.

How do you get past this? I can't figure it out. In the instances when I haven't repeated myself, I've often been misheard or not heard at all.

Yes, everything you said is true for me as well, including others thinking I am talking down to them (even my husband often says "do you think I'm stupid"). I think sometimes its because I don't express myself correctly, sometimes its others not listening well, and sometimes it might be a mix of both. And I think its normal to try to explain the same thing in different ways when you realise that people didn't understand what you meant.

At times I have the stupidest arguments with my husband because I say something, and then he starts arguing with me but is he saying the exact same thing I meant, and I keep trying to explain in different ways until he finally understands what I meant ... or sometimes until I'm so mad at him I get out of the room lol.

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16 Dec 2014, 11:24 am

Shadi2 wrote:

At times I have the stupidest arguments with my husband because I say something, and then he starts arguing with me but is he saying the exact same thing I meant, and I keep trying to explain in different ways until he finally understands what I meant ... or sometimes until I'm so mad at him I get out of the room lol.

My husband does that to me on purpose... he'll just start arguing the same thing I am in a different way to get me riled up. It's annoying.

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16 Dec 2014, 11:44 am

This used to happen because I used to think that people weren't listening to me.

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16 Dec 2014, 2:53 pm

michael517 wrote:

I do too.

For some reason I have to repeat the 'punch line' twice, of which the second time its not funny.

I have been trying to stop it.

I think it comes from 'scripting', the concept of you go over the what you want to say. You say it, and you run out of things to say, so since you are 'going from a script', you (or I) repeat what you said before. This is only an opinion, a guess, not a proven fact.

Holy smoke I do this ALL the time! My daughter gets on me nearly every day about this! And especially if something really IS funny, then I guess I enjoy the feeling of amusing someone so I go for it again, expecting the same result lol

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16 Dec 2014, 2:57 pm

My problem exactly! I'm so worried I may have not expressed myself right, and I cant tell from the other person's expression or reaction if he/she understood me correctly. this is why I repeat myself. I wreck my brain frantically months and sometimes years(!) later about the exact words I should've used, lol.

Very good point, really interesting. I've thought about this a lot. So glad others feel this way.

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16 Dec 2014, 3:02 pm

VegetableMan wrote:

Yes, I'm guilty of repeating myself quite frequently.

(Sorry, I couldn't resist.)

lol

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