Things NTs do that appear rude

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Put their heavy arms on your shoulders

On the flip side of interrupting...

Say I am at a function/party, and I am leaving early as usual. I want to say goodbye and thank the host. Inevitably, the host is in a conversation with someone else. I do not want to rudely interrupt, but I do want to say goodbye and thank-you. I end up waiting by the people talking, and the other person KNOWS I want to talk to the host (and usually, I have my stuff like my purse and maybe my coat on - it's OBVIOUS I'm getting ready to leave and don't want a long conversation.) And they just keep talking, talking, talking, not letting me interject quickly and then go. It is so annoying to have to wait, wait, wait when I am trying to politely LEAVE.

Other annoying things...

Not getting introduced. I do not like parties, but I sometimes find myself at them for one reason or another and I might know one or two other people. These people I know don't even bother helping me to meet anyone else.

I´d say, showing a palm to shush people, while we´re on the phone MIGHT be interpreted as a more general GO AWAY! instead of "wait a sec".
I know that feeling - so I allways point to the phone and mime: ONE MINUTE.

I tend to jump into conversations to add my two cents. I guess that's rude then. I really try to be polite, but I want to talk to people.

I unfortunately do that all the time with my mother.

What I find rude is when people are bossy towards others when they don't have the authority to do so.

I think that what a lot of my deaf friends who are not autistic do would be considered to be very rude but is accepted and actually preferred to at my school, which is a school for deaf students.

What they usually do to get one another person's attention is wave their hand in front of the person's face or flash the lights in the room on and off briefly. This is very much preferred at my school because even with their hearing devices, the person might not hear their name being called. My family members (who aren't autistic) sometimes wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don't mind this though. I'm used to it. I'd rather have someone wave their hands in front of my face than screaming my name (which I sometimes don't respond to either) to get my attention.

argh, I used to get this all the time.

The receptionist would look at any food I brought in and have a good laugh if it there was even a slightly tiny thing wrong with it, like it wasn't wrapped properly. Then another lady would come in the room and look at it in disgust if it wasn't totally invisible.

I think that's rude across the board. I don't hesitate to tell those (other than my boss) to go blow if they want to order me around. It used to bother me to do that because I don't like conflict, but I really don't like being a door mat, and I don't like being talked down to either. Constructive criticism or helpful advice is one thing, but if you are a peer and not a superior, don't expect me to take orders from you, and I will correct you if you overstep your bounds.

I get really thrown off when people make comments about my groceries.

Lady in front of me at checkout, "Wow someone's eating healthy, good for you." --- me just stare blankly at her until she walks off.

Another time some woman comes up to me in an aisle and says, "Your avocado looks so sad all alone in your cart." --- me, "Is there a problem with my shopping?" while staring blankly at her until she looked for help from some other person with her, who said nothing, so then they walked off.

Also this one lady who works a cash register that EVERY SINGLE TIME feels it necessary to comment on my purchase. I deliberately avoid her register now because it just makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Once I was at church and Sunday school classes hadn't started yet, so I was reading at a table by myself with my ears plugged. The youth pastor's wife sat across from me and tried to start a conversation. Lady, do you not see me reading with my ears plugged? I kept my fingers in my ears (probably considered 'rude' by those without sensory problems) and she kept on talking and talking until finally she left. She was completely oblivious.

Yeah I think it is rude when people in stores comment on the things I am buying. I've had clerks make really weird comments when I was buying multiples of something, and they would even ask me who/what I was buying it for.

If a cashier does that to me repeatedly, I complain to the store manager or call the company's customer service hotline. Sometimes they are doing it because the company expects them to be chatty with customers.

It comes across as rude to me if a person just randomly starts talking to me without getting my attention first. Especially if they are calling out across a room at some distance. If I'm busy and/or not looking in their direction, how am I supposed to know they are talking to me?

It's because the rules of politeness change according to your social standing.

Coming to Wrong Planet and posting how terrible ASD people are, with an air of superiority, malice and grandiose self-righteousness.

B19....that person was obviously just a troll.

Trying to pull our chains. Trying to get a reaction from us.

Schoolyard stuff, really.