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10 Feb 2015, 5:43 pm

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I don't see why not wasting money is being a 'slave'.


I'm fairly poor but live on my own, so it's not an issue. And if I'm hungry, I'll eat with others (and not talk,) but it is the ritualistic and social pressure that I don't understand.

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Do you leave lights on in every room in your house to prove your 'freedom from the machine'?

No, I leave them on if I want them on.

But if my language bothers you, I am sorry. It just seems unhealthy to me to follow the guide of cost as opposed to the natural rhythms of the body. The whole idea of eating together is artificial. Ive got nothing against cooking, but there's nothing wrong with reheating it when you're hungry.

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Read through this thread/my posts in a few days when you can see objectively.


I've always felt this way and nothing you wrote compels me to question my view.



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10 Feb 2015, 8:09 pm

I don't really enjoy eating with other people especially in a restaurant. There are too many distractions from the food. I like to focus completely on the tastes and textures. I would certainly not eat if I'm not hungry and I don't clear my plate unless I need to. I can eat and converse at the same time but I prefer eating alone or simply not talking while eating. I don't multi-task well. Eating together is a social activity for most people but not for me. I eat for pleasure and sustinence, I do not eat to strengthen social bonds with other people.



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10 Feb 2015, 8:18 pm

corroonb wrote:
I don't really enjoy eating with other people especially in a restaurant. There are too many distractions from the food. I like to focus completely on the tastes and textures. I would certainly not eat if I'm not hungry and I don't clear my plate unless I need to. I can eat and converse at the same time but I prefer eating alone or simply not talking while eating. I don't multi-task well. Eating together is a social activity for most people but not for me. I eat for pleasure and sustinence, I do not eat to strengthen social bonds with other people.

I don't understand the social aspect of it. To me eating is an annoying necessity. To enter into a shared celebration of it seems gratuitous.



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10 Feb 2015, 9:36 pm

I like food. I like to read my newspaper while I eat. I don't mind talking to people while I eat.

Food is nutrition. Eating with people is like "breaking bread." "Breaking bread" means you have a bond with someone.



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11 Feb 2015, 1:13 am

Synchronization of actions like eating is for creating more social interaction, - fueling of memes.

Group eating brings memes within close proximity so that they can interact and be shared.
Memes with certain characteristics like this become stronger and lasting. They grow as structures.



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11 Feb 2015, 4:31 am

The food timing? Mostly for socialization. In gatherings, celebrations, work/school breaks; they mingle around. Sometimes it's their only chance of the/that day to meet up. Sometimes it's just for routine when they have to do something else afterwards.
Imagine dating people, minus the oblige of speech and the romantic parts.
But especially in family meals; where they discuss their day after work/school/day which is rather encouraged around.
Then there's this stigma for eating meals alone, which until now I still don't get it. Sometimes it's a sign you're unpopular or simply a loner. Sometimes it concerns people.


Yet I don't follow the 3 meals and over 3-5 snack times a day routine.
I rarely spoke during meals if I'm eating with someone. I don't want someone, or anyone end up losing their appetite by getting letting words out of my mouth. Or some fuss. I'm fine eating alone. And I agree that I'm focusing on texture and taste than talking.
I eat whatever I want, and whenever I feel to.

Rationing food and schedule as function would've made more sense.


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11 Feb 2015, 5:16 am

Edna3362 wrote:
Then there's this stigma for eating meals alone, which until now I still don't get it. Sometimes it's a sign you're unpopular or simply a loner. Sometimes it concerns people.

I once went to a restaurant on my dinner break and ate alone. The waitress was awkward about it. Probably because she gets bigger tips with more people. But it wasn't pleasant.
I wonder if there is a feeling of communal safety when eating in groups. Less vulnerability maybe. I feel anyone as a threat though.



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11 Feb 2015, 8:57 am

I don't like to eat with other people. The sound of others eating can be infuriating sometimes, especially loud eaters and most of all, soup slurpers.