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18 Feb 2015, 10:07 am

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Just don't tell people you have Aspergers. Just fake it and pretend to be social even if you're not.

The thing is that we're seen as normal to untrained people. Most people can't spot out someone with what we have and say, that person is autistic. Although many people with Aspergers do come off as either nerdy, rude, or uninterested.

The truth is, I know a lot of people with Aspergers who are disliked by neurotypicals their own age. This is especially the case when you're in your teenage years. I work with a couple of guys at a restaurant and one of them has Aspergers and I overheard some guys saying that he (the guy with aspergers) is the biggest a hole and dweeb ever, I hope his car runs off the road and he doesn't show up for work. So yah, a lot of aspies do come off as socially inept a-holes. This is why you cant stay stupid s**t and pretend you're not interested. You have to smile and fake it if you have to because if you don't get along with your coworkers or peers, you're going to have a harder time. Just act normal in front of your neurotypical peers that you barely know.


I'm sorry, but I'm really offended that you don't think I try to act normal. I've struggled doing that for years, and no matter how hard I try, I still get confused on how to properly act in certain situations. It's not like I have people to help me with social skills.



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18 Feb 2015, 10:10 am

I think, as you get older, and get around more mature people, that people will overlook your slight "quirks" more.



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18 Feb 2015, 10:14 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I think, as you get older, and get around more mature people, that people will overlook your slight "quirks" more.


I think you're right about that - at least for the most part. Being an odd sixty-year-old seems to be more acceptable than being a weird sixteen-year-old.


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18 Feb 2015, 10:16 am

Just be your own Goofy Goober self, and you'll be fine--as long as you're not constantly "mad at the world."



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18 Feb 2015, 10:18 am

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Just be your own Goofy Goober self, and you'll be fine--as long as you're not constantly "mad at the world."

That's what got me abused and bullied as a kid.



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18 Feb 2015, 10:20 am

Being myself got me bullied as well. But you have to stick to your guns.

I had this discussion with some guy, about 25, who was bullied as a kid. He felt like he was a "broken vase" which couldn't be fixed. What I told him: You're an adult now. You could create a new vase for youself--you have the freedom to do so!

You're 19 now. If people bully you now, just call the cops!



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18 Feb 2015, 10:39 am

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Being myself got me bullied as well. But you have to stick to your guns.

I had this discussion with some guy, about 25, who was bullied as a kid. He felt like he was a "broken vase" which couldn't be fixed. What I told him: You're an adult now. You could create a new vase for youself--you have the freedom to do so!

You're 19 now. If people bully you now, just call the cops!


Such an important and liberating realization!

I was really distressed when I had a bullying boss after leaving all that stuff behind in my childhood. Being mocked and belittled by a person in authority at work really took me back to those childhood torments... but then I realized that I am a powerful adult with rights and his behavior seemed childish. I played by the rules and he was not able to fire me, and he met some other setbacks and did not get the promotion he expected. He began drinking heavily and ultimately left the firm.

It is really good to realize that you don't have to be a victim and you aren't doomed to replay bad childhood experiences forever.



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18 Feb 2015, 10:54 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Being myself got me bullied as well. But you have to stick to your guns.

I had this discussion with some guy, about 25, who was bullied as a kid. He felt like he was a "broken vase" which couldn't be fixed. What I told him: You're an adult now. You could create a new vase for youself--you have the freedom to do so!

You're 19 now. If people bully you now, just call the cops!


So as long as I'm a law abiding citizen, I can be my weird self?



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18 Feb 2015, 10:57 am

You're darn right you could!

As long as you don't act like a jerk to people.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:00 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
You're darn right you could!

As long as you don't act like a jerk to people.


I said weird, not mean.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:07 am

I figured that! You know I like your Goofy Goober self!



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18 Feb 2015, 11:14 am

You know what? You're right. I'm so totally going to be myself! You have inspired me!

Tomorrow i'm going to school in all pink and wear a shirt saying brony and proud. Then i'm going to fart stairway to heaven while in class. Finally during lunch jump up on the table and sing im too sexy for my shirt.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:16 am

I really don't like the farting idea.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:20 am

Why man? im just expressing who I am bro. Its what I love doing.

How can you not appreciate my farting musical ability? I'm gonna be famous! Collaborating with Iggy and Jay Z. I'm gonna do a farting solo on one of their mixtapes.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:24 am

I don't like the smell.

You could be yourself...but there's a limit if it offends somebody.



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18 Feb 2015, 11:29 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I don't like the smell.

You could be yourself...but there's a limit if it offends somebody.



well gosh dangit, I never knew that. I better burn the brony shirt then and ditch the farting life. I'm going to try my luck at twerking. Thats what all the guys do nowadays.