Have you ever wanted to just stop talking all together?

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Often. I remember a time when I spoke very little and it seemed like a better time for me internally. I don't like talking to people for the most part. Sometimes I wish I'd never learned. It's just more comfortable not to speak and I seem so much more fluent when I write. I've considered resorting to mechanical means...

I have immense trouble learning the spoken component of languages. I can read more than I can speak. I can speak English and a little Spanish. I can read in English, Spanish, French, and German to some extent, English is the best being my native tongue (I actually consider written English to be closer to my native tongue than verbal English).

I had a bad spell for a year about ten years ago where I did not talk at all. I can pretty much get away with that at work. When I would try to talk, it just felt like my throat was full and I couldn't. I was in extreme emotional overload at that point. I eventually snapped out of it. I'm not much of a talker anyway.

I am nearly mute. Spoken words often seem futile to me. I carry pen & paper in my purse in case I need something in public. I do write well, however. I am an analytical writer and therefore formulaic. In fact, I have quit speaking entirely for some times in my life. Speaking is unnatural and I converse by choreographed cues and mimicry. When I was 8 I quit speaking for 8.5 months and I think my vocal chords became sort of atrophied. At my laboratory I have pen & paper in my lab coat since it's just easier/quicker - I have nice coworkers. Also, I very often draw instead of use words. Why can't NT's just be shown and know? Also, NT memory is notoriously sketchy and selective. I can present evidence, but will they catch on? I can't know what they're thinking, I'm not psychic! NT's often insert meaning where it does not exist plus just simply can't catch the meaning presented. Verbal communication is just inept. I become frustrated with myself that I cannot convey/translate.

I mostly, don't talk at all. My communication is all online...here and on msn. I talk briefly and curtly if I have to...when I cannot blank people. I talk to two females, a couple of times a week, but one of them I don't much like. I am in London with my mother right now, and have noticed, our meals are mostly silent as conversing doesn't come naturally to me. I have to work to talk, and I so abhor talking about generalities.

I had already stoped and it has been a disaster. But I am getting myself used to talking more.

Dont do it, it will ruin you, trust me I know.

I remember going through a period of time not speaking to anyone very much and it was purposeful. It didn't make anything better, if anything it attracted more attention than I wanted. When I was younger, and still to some degree, I wanted to fade into the woodwork as much as possible.

I always had a tendency to be loud an obnoxious as a child, and have found myself saying things in the same way as an adult, embarrassing myself from time to time. I'm still loud and obnoxious. Those who know me well accept it, those that don't, I've decided can go on with their miserable lives not knowing me better than they do lol.

The less the better. Ordering thought in my head, and speaking, do not mix. I withdraw to write.

As I peer into the darkness, where shadows show my way, along paths dangerous and unknown, some fool comes and shines a flashlight in my face. Long till the blindness passes, again I move forward, and again a blinding light. I make a torch, when I see them coming I light it, as their light shines in my face, so mine does theirs. They do not return.

Email me I say, for when the computer is off I am sleeping, so when the computer, dialup, is off, they call on the phone and let it ring. Speaking is annoying agression, I get social on them. The computer is now on when I sleep.

Knocking on my door is ignored. I can be me, or someone's plaything. There are toy stores. I owe nothing.

No, but I choose my words very carefully.

With friends I'm a talker, but I'd much rather not speak to people otherwise. I've considered ASL, sign language is very appealing. But is ASL attention-getting? Once I saw some people using sign language - well, very loud is what I'd call it. They sat opposite each other on the bus and waved their arms and oppened and closed their mouths wide ... is that ASL? Are facial expressions involved? I don't think I could do that. Maybe I could learn some useful phrases, like "Leave me alone."

Yes,SOME facial expressions are used in ASL,but most people don't move thier mouths in a speaking manner when using ASL.


-SpaceCase

This is a great website for learning ASL:
[link]http://commtechlab.msu.edu/SITES/ASLWEB/browser.htm[/link]
I sign with my one year old. She's just learning to talk, but we've been signing for a while.

You CAN'T move your mouths to sign ASL. People move their mouths to emulate speach for lip readers. Some may even talk, especially those using hearing aids.

Steve

I don't know about that.

In childhood I really didn't want to talk (because talking was so painful and exhausting, although I didn't know that was why at the time). And at one point I lost speech and regained it again in early childhood.

As I got older it got harder and harder to talk, and also my talking had a lot of discrepancy between talking and thinking much of the time. The wider this discrepancy got and the less I could talk, the more I used writing in the end.

And now after progressively (and involuntarily for the most part) losing useful speech, I use entirely writing, and I don't feel particularly ruined by it.

I wish I'd been offered more communication options as a child so that the idea of "doing better with another method instead of talking" would not seem weird or destructive or scary.

Only to others. I like my own company.